PR 306 Interpersonal Relationships- Dr. Sleeth---FINAL

1. Self

2. Authority

3. Work

4. Family

5. Others

6. God

What are the six people groups that make up our interpersonal relationship system? *SAW FOG

Proverbs 16:7

What verse goes with the following truth: Our relationship with God must be right before our relationship with others will be right? *God comes first with the verse that goes first

1 John 4:20-21

What verse goes with the following truth: Our relationship with others must be right before our relationship with God will be right? *God comes second with the verse that comes second

the decisions you make today

The realities of your future are forged in _____?_______.

True

True/False

Our relationship with others will, to a large degree, determine our success or failure in God's service

1. It gives us confidence

2. It determines our course and gives us a purpose

3. It brings contentment

What are three benefits of knowing God's call?

1. God's timing is rarely our timing

2. The enemy of the best decision is the good decision

3. Presuming upon God

4. Success is not necessarily an indication of God's blessing

What are four cautions to take in recognizing God's call?

1. God's Word

2. Prayer

3. Holy Spirit

4. Counsel

5. Circumstances

What are five sources from which we can get guidance from concerning discerning God's call?

1. Surrender

2. Trust

3. Obedience

4. Desire

5. Focus

What are five requirements needed in order to discern God's will?

1. Recognize the differences between people

2. Understand different reactions based upon personality

What are two advantages of the personality test?

1. Categorizing/ stereotyping

2. Excuse for wrong or sinful behavior

What are two disadvantages of the personality test?

False--we all have at least one spiritual gift.

True/False

We do not all have a spiritual gift

service

What is the purpose of gifts?

by God at salvation

Gifts are given when and by whom?

No

Is a spiritual gift a natural human ability?

False

True/False

A spiritual gift is a spiritual fruit

1. Ministering

2. Exhortation

3. Giving

4. Teaching

5. Mercy

6. Faith

7. Evangelism

What are seven spiritual gifts?

1. Distracted listening

2. Filtered listening

3. Rehearsing

4. Interrupting

What are four challenges of listening?

1. Cliche

2. Facts

3. Opinions

4. Feelings

5. Needs

What are the five levels of communication?

Love

What is choosing to discover and understand the needs of another and expend whatever resources necessary to meet those needs?

1. Cliche

2. Facts

3. Opinions

Which three of the five levels of communication are in all relationships?

1. Feelings

2. Needs

Which two of the five levels of communication are ONLY in romantic/intimate relationships?

1. Authority

2. Peer

3. Subordinate

What are the three types of relationships?

1. Drive Thru Talking

2. Planned Times of Praise

3. Isolation Principle

4. Emotional Word Picture

5. Evaluate your mate

What are 5 methods of communication?

Emotional word picture

What is a communication method that uses a picture and story or object to affectively reach an audience by making them feel what we're feeling through a relatable circumstance. It allows us to put our feelings into words.

1. Changes lives

2. Directs our attention

3. Brings communication to life

4. Locks our words into a person's memory

5. Gateway to intimacy

What are 5 things that emotional word pictures do for us?

1. Nature

2. Objects

3. Stories

4. History

What are the 4 wells we can draw from to effectively communicate emotional word pictures to another?

1. Words of Affirmation

2. Quality Time

3. Physical Touch

4. Acts of Service

5. Receiving Gifts

What are the 5 love languages?

Conflict

What is a disagreement that results from a clash of opposing responses?

Contention

What is a struggle of opposing wills that is the result of an improper response to conflict and is settled with arguing instead of discussing?

1. Rejection of position in relationship

2. Emotional baggage

3. Differences in personality

4. Sin

What are 4 reasons for interpersonal problems? *REDS

1. Appreciate God working in our lives and in the lives of others

2. Understand the nature of your position in the relationship and respond Biblically

3. Accept what cannot be changed in your life and in the lives of others

What are three solutions for interpersonal problems?

1. Avoiding

2. Accommodating

3. Manipulating

4. Dominating

5. Collaborating

What are 5 styles of dealing with conflict?

Only one way is correct and it is Collaborating

Of the five ways to deal with conflict, how many are correct? Name them, also.

1. Righteous indignation

2. Anger resulting from frustrated personal desires

What are 2 causes of anger?

1. Blowing up

2. Clamming up

3. Giving up

4. Fessing up

What are 4 expressions of anger?

1. Evaluate

2. Locate

3. Anticipate

4. Communicate

5. Negotiate

What are the 5 steps to taming the emotion of anger?

..."destroys its own container."

Finish the quote: "Bitterness is the only poison which"...

Bitterness

What is a sinful response to the emotion of anger caused by harboring an injustice which results in broken fellowship with God?

False

T/F: We have a right to be bitter.

1. Not based on whether or not a person deserves it

2. To forgive does not necessarily mean to forget

3. Forgiveness is granted, not earned

4. Forgiveness is a servant of the will, not a prisoner of the emotions

5. Forgiveness is the will of God

Name the 5 principles that govern our forgiveness.

1. Regret

2. Repentance

3. Reconciliation

4. Restitution

5. Restoration

What are the 5 steps to rebuilding a relationship after conflict? *Rebuilding and Relationship start with R

1. credit card

2. get the bill

Complete this quote: "Procrastination is like a ____1____--it's a lot of fun until you ___2___."

The response

What should be the major concern of conflict?

Work

What is the effort we put forth to accomplish a task that God has given a person to do?

1. Please God

2. Bring glory to God

What two areas should our philosophy of work extend to?

1. Excellence

2. caring

3. risking

4. dreaming

5. expecting

Fill in the blank: __1__ is the result of __2__ more than what others think is prudent, __3__ more than what others think proper, __4__ more than what others think is practical, and __5__ more than what others think is possible.

1. Provides a venue for witnessing

2. Promotes job security

3. Produces opportunities for advancement

4. Pleases God

5. Plan of God is a priority

What are 5 benefits of a Biblical work ethic?

1. Dependability

2. Diligence

3. Gratefulness

4. Humility

5. Integrity/Honesty (integrity is the trait; honesty is the result)

Name the first 5 elements of a Biblical work ethic.

6. Initiative

7. Leadership

8. Loyalty

9. Positive attitude

10. Professionalism

Name the next 5 elements of a Biblical work ethic.

11. Responsibility

12. Service

13. Teachable

14. Vision

15. Walking with God

Name the final 5 elements of a Biblical work ethic.

TRUE

T/F: 90 % of people who fail in their life's vocation do so because they don't get along with people.

1. Our effectiveness in the workplace depends on our ability to relate to other people.

2. Biblical principles will work in the secular workplace.

What are two overriding workplace principles?

1. Knowing your strengths and limitations

2. Respecting others

3. Developing a maturing toward those with whom you disagree

4. Avoiding judgmental attitudes

5. Recognizing coworker assets

What are 5 characteristics of a job that can make coworker relationships difficult?

Biblical leadership

What is taking the initiative to meet the needs of others with a servant's spirit?

1. strengths

2. weaknesses

Finish the statement: Learn to lead in your __1__ and staff in your __2__.

labor

Getting the job done is the accomplishment of ____.

manager

Making sure the job gets done by others is the job of the ____.

leader

Inspiring others to do a better job is the accomplishment of a ____.

1. Long term thinkers who see beyond the day's crisis

2. Interests in their companies do not stop with the departments they head

3. Place a heavy emphasis on vision, values, and motivation

What are 3 characteristics of a leader?

1. Position

2. Permission

3. Production

4. People development

5. Personal Character

What are the five levels of leadership?

Permission

What is the most often skipped level of leadership?

People development

What is the key to leadership?

influence

What is the essence of leadership?

1. knows

2. goes

A leader is one who __1__ the way and __2__ the way.

1. How I value people

2. My commitment to people

3. My integrity with people

4. My standard for people

5. My influence over people

Success in developing others depends on what 5 things?

attitude

How I value people is an issue of my

__?__.

time

My commitment to people is an issue of my __?__.

1. Encouragement

2. Correction

Name two keys to people development.

TRUE

T/F: The goal of correction is to address and correct a continuous or unusually serious problem through the use of education, encouragement, reprimand, and/or punishment.

respect

A husband needs a wife who will ____ him as a man.

grateful

A husband needs a wife who is ____.

inward and outward beauty.

A husband needs a wife who will continue to develop ____ __ ____ ____.

1. meek

2. quiet

Inward beauty is a __1__ and __2__ spirit.

recreational

A husband needs a wife who will provide ______ companionship.

domestic

A husband needs a wife who will provide _____ support.

1. stability

2. direction

A wife needs to have __1__ and __2__ in order to be a spiritual leader.

1. A tender heart toward the things of God

2. Evidence of Biblical convictions in his life

What are two marks of a spiritual leader?

understand

A wife needs her husband to ____ her.

helpmeet

A wife needs her husband to let her be his ______.

commit himself

A wife needs her husband to ______ _____ to his family.

good father

A wife needs her husband to be a _____ _____.

security

A wife needs her husband to provide her with _____.

in-law troubles

What is the number one cause of marital conflict during the first year of marriage?

1. not receiving parent's blessing

2. immaturity on the couple's part

What are two causes of in-law relationship problems?

1. being a parent is a sacred trust

2. being a parent is a solemn responsibility

3. being a parent is not a sprint

What are three principles of parenting?

1. love and fellowship

2. discipline and correction

What are the two pillars of child training?

1. love

2. discipline

If you're too heavy on the __1__ and too light on the __2__, your child will be rebellious.

1. discipline

2. love

If you're too heavy on the __1__ and too light on the __2__, your child will have resentment.

lust

Children come into the world unwilling to follow any boundary but their ____.

FALSE.

T/F: Children will not naturally develop a will to dominate.

boundaries

Children need _____ to develop morally.

Training

What is developing practices and habits within a child by means of instruction, exercise, and drill?

When they are capable of responding to it

When should you begin training your child?

1. training

2. correction

3. punishment

What are the three purposes of the rod?

FALSE.

T/F: Using "the rod" should be common.

1. Goal-- to bring the child to a place of repentance

2. When-- there should be specific offenses that qualify for the rod as punishment

3. How-- intentional, consistent (child should not be surprised), measured response

What are the 3 rules for using the rod?

1. Unbiblical philosophy of finances

2. Misuse of debt

3. Not following a budget

4. Not establishing an emergency fund

Name the first 4 financial mistakes young couples make.

5. Misuse of credit cards

6. Buying a car that is too expensive

7. Not systematically living

8. Buying a home

What are the final 4 financial mistakes that young couples make?

1. living

2. giving

What are the two purposes of money?