Personal Health Ch 5: Emotions

Genuineness

being honest, direct, not using a facade

empathy

the ability to understand and share the feelings of another

unconditional positive regard

the ability to experience a person without judgement or negative feelings

self-concept

all our thoughts and feelings about ourselves, in answer to the question, "Who am I?"

gender role

A culturally expected pattern of behavior and attitudes determined by a person's gender

We are more likely to feel lovable if we feel what as children

feeling loved valued and respected, adults respond to our needs in appropriate ways, and adults gave us freedom to play, explore, and develop a sense of being separate individuals

socialization

The process of learning to behave in a way that is acceptable to society.

attachment

The emotional tie between an infant and their caregiver or between two people in an intimate relationship.

anxious/avoidant attachment

an insecure attachment between infant and caregiver, characterized by indifference on the part of the infant toward the caregiver

Companionship

the good feeling you get when you're with someone else,

Respect

acknowledging differences and being able to work with them without fighting

Help

friends can rely on each other for assistance

Trust

feeling confident and safe with each other

Loyalty

friends can count on each other

Mutuality

the sharing of a feeling, action, or relationship between two or more parties.

Reciprocity

the obligation to return in kind what another has done for us

triangle of love

intimacy, passion, commitment

In the years leading up to the COVID19 pandemic,

one-third of young people reported a romantic or dating relationship before age 18.

Sexual intercourse has

declined for 3 decades. 54% in 1991, to 38% in 2019, to 30% in 2021

Passion decreases as we become

habituated to it

commitment

does not necessarily diminish over time

Emotional intelligence

the ability to perceive, understand, manage, and use emotions

mindfulness

the ability to dispassionately observe thoughts as they occur

lower levels of emotional intelligence are correlated with

right-wing authoritarianism

unequal or premature commitment

When one person in an intimate partnership becomes more serious about the relationship than the other, they can be difficult to maintain it without someone feeling hurt.

Unrealistic expectations

expecting partner to change, always expecting to agree, expecting relationship to fulfil all needs

competitiveness in relationships

to avoid it, ask if winning is more important than your partner's feelings

Balancing time together and apart

every person is unique and has different needs for distance and closeness in a relationship

jealousy

a protective reaction to a perceived threat to a valued relationship

Unhealthy intimate relationships

extreme dependency, abuse, power dynamics, neglect

Ending a relationship

- Give the relationship a fair chance before breaking up

- Be fair and honest

- Be tactful and compassionate

- If you are the rejected person, give yourself time to resolve your anger and pain

- Recognize the value of the experience

- Use recovery time for self-renewal

Communication

A process through which you send messages to and receive messages from others.

Nonverbal communication

communication using body movements, gestures, and facial expressions rather than speech

digital communication problems

missing nonverbal cues, promoting an ideal version of oneself, spying, not staying present, publicizing more of one's life

self-disclosure

involves revealing personal information we wouldn't otherwise reveal

listening

spending more time understanding someone and less time judging them

feedback

a constructive response to someone's self-disclosure

conflict resolution

clarify the issue, find out what each person wants, decide how to negotiate, solidify the agreements, review and negotiate

people tend to choose partners based on

geographic area, similar racial backgrounds, ethnics, religions, linguistics, and socioeconomic backgrounds, has a similar education status, leads a lifestyle like theirs, and has the same level of subjective physical attractiveness

sexual orientation

A consistent pattern of emotional and sexual attraction based on biological sex; it exists in many forms, including attraction to people of another sex, of the same sex, of a range of sexes/genders, or to no one at all.

queer

Sexual orientations other than heterosexual/straight.

advantages of being single

Having time to make decisions about one's life course

Time to develop personal resources to meet goals

Freedom to make autonomous decisions and pursue one's own schedule and interests

Opportunities to explore new places and try out new things

Privacy

Disadvantages of being single

loneliness, economic hardship, feeling out of place, sexual frustration, not having children, prejudices

66% of couples believe

cohabitation is a step towards marriage

domestic partnership

two unrelated adults who share a mutually caring relationship, reside together, and agree to be jointly responsible for their dependents, basic living expenses, and other common necessities

marriage

a legal relationship, usually involving economic cooperation, sexual activity, and childbearing

benefits of marriage

economic well-being, physical and mental health, personal happiness, more social interactions

best predictors of a happy marriage

- realistic expectations

- acceptance of the other's personality

- development of friendships with other couples

- good communication

- effective ways of resolving conflict

- agreement on religious/ethical issues

- egalitarian roles

- good balance of individual and joint interests

divorce rates are higher among

subsequent marriages

half of marriages end in

divorce

demandingness

degree to which parents set down rules and expectations for behavior and require their children to comply with them

responsiveness

being supportive for a child.

blended family issues

financial and living arrangements, resolving feelings and issues from previous marriage, parenthood roles

successful families have

commitment, appreciation, communication, time together, spiritual wellness, stress and crisis management, affectionate physical contact

According to Carl Rogers, what are the conditions that characterize healthy relationships?

empathy

unconditional positive regard

genuineness

If individuals experienced distant attachments during their childhoods, they can have satisfying relationships later in life because they can:

learn needed skills

What statements about love are accurate?

Love can add more meaning to our lives.

It encompasses opposites such as affection and anger.

Which of the following can happen when romance and passionate love diminish in a relationship?

A more lasting love can emerge.

The relationship can end.

According to Carl Rogers, ______ refers to the ability to experience another person without judgment and negative feelings; it is one of the conditions that characterize healthy relationships.

unconditional positive regard

One of the most basic and profound human emotions is:

love

unequal commitment

The degree of "involvement" in the relationship is perceived to be unequal, fostering unequal degrees of perceived power and interest

Online dating allows people a freedom to

express themselves that they may not feel in in-person situations.

statements about marriage

Married people live longer.

Married people's increased social interaction is linked to reduced risk of dementia.

Bureau of Labor Statistics data show that in 2023, only ______ of civilian workers had access to paid family leave, which includes parental leave.

27%

The role the American Psychological Association recommends that a stepparent take in a newly formed stepfamily is that of:

friend