exam 1 - marriage and family

family research theory

social exchange

structure function

family systems

family

2+ people related by blood marriage or adoption (legal definition)

family of origin

the family into which you are born

family of procreation

the family you begin when your priorities start to move from your family of origin to the family you have upon marriage and having children

nuclear family

family of origin and/or family of procreation

monogamous family

1 husband and 1 wife

polygamy marriage

marriage with 2 or more spouses

elements of marriage

emotional relationship

sexual monogamy

responsibility for children

announcement and ceremony (weddings)

marriage as a social institution....

enduring patterns of social relationships

marriage

legal relationship binding two people together

sex

biological distinction of males and females

gender

social construct referring to characteristics associated with being female or male

intersexed

those with mixed or ambiguous genitalia

gender roles

social norms outlining behaviors socially appropriate for males and females

gender role identity

the "proper" role relationships between women and men in a particular society

socialization

how society conveys to an individual the norms/expectation for his/her behavior

how we learn gender roles

family

religion

race

ethnicity

peers

education

economy

mass media

gender identity

psychological and social state of viewing yourself as girl/boy

transgender

born to one biological sex but displaying characteristics of the opposite sex

cross-dresser

dressing or presenting themselves as the gender of the opposite sex

transsexual

biologically one sec but believing they were born with the body of the other gender

nonbinary

general "umbrella" term that describes those who have a gender that isn't considered exclusively categorized as male or female (by the individual)

androgyny

blending of traits that are stereotypically associated with masculinity and femininity

what is not love

lust: sexual desire

infatuation: strong emotional feeling based on little actual exposure to love object

evolutionary theory of love

hard wired/genetic

biochemical theory of love

a specific neurotransmitter dopamine, induces love feeling

also, the hormone oxytocin that makes people feel euphoric

sociological theory of love

connectedness grows out of ascribed gender and social roles

preset pattern/stages of relationships

learning theory of love

love grows from recurrent "rewarding" behaviors such as smiles, positive statements, and touch

ludic love style

all games

no serious relationship

pragma love style

logical/rational

is this a good match?

eros love style

romantic love

passionate

mania love style

dependent

obsessive

storge love style

companionate

calming

agape love style

compassionate

focused on well being of another

triangular view of love

intimacy

passion

commitment

what goes into feeling love?

body condition

reciprocal liking

personality

self-esteem

self-disclosure

gratitude

propinquity

the more we see people, the more we like them and the more likely we will be friends with them

what tends to attract two people together?

things they have in common

values, morals, etc

jealousy

emotional response to real or perceived threat

communication

the exchange of information and feelings between

positives to technology and communication

more continuous contact through the day to work out "logistics" of relationships thus leaving more time for deeper level contact

negatives to technology and communication

technology addictions, discomfort in real face to face communication, consequences at work/school

sexting

sending erotic text and photos images through a cell phone

conflict

behavior that are contrast to or interfere with someone else

common sources of conflict

inconsistent rules

perceptions on behavior

behavior

value differences

inconsistent roles

proactivity of conflict

make time to talk

more positivity

talk in person

listen

open ended questions

be aware of gender differences/goals in communication

what is the price of dishonesty

loss of trust

escapism defense mechanism

avoidance

rationalization

explanation that hides the honest motive

projection

you=i

what you do is bad but i do the same thing

displacement

taking your emotions "out" on someone other than the actual source

singlehood

not being legally married but does not mean not in a relationship

why do we really become involved with a romantic partner?

intimacy

fun

self-esteem

learning

status

hooking up

sexual contact void of a relationship commitment

alternative forms of dating

speed dating

international dating

"high end" dating

long distance dating

cohabitation

living together

living apart together

committed individuals who do not live together

endogamy

cultural expectation to select a partner within your own social grou

exogamy

cultural "pressure" to marry outside your family group

homhogamy

tendency to seek someone who has similar characteristics

- social class

- physical appearance

- education

- age

what are some desirable characteristics in a potential partner?

1. warm

2. kind

3. kind

4. humorous

5. intelligence

6. physical attractiveness

undesirable characteristics in potential partner

1. controlling

2. poor impulse control

3. insecure

4. narcissistic

5. hypersensitive