permission to feel: chapter 1.

"how are you feeling?"

it should be one of the easiest questions to answer

how can home life affect emotions?

some people come from very turbulent homes and others are not so dramatic, but either way, emotions can be neglected

why is "how are you feeling" such a hard question to answer?

people seem to lack the vocabulary to adequately describe their feelings; the person answering isn't expected to be honest

what happens when we bottle up emotions?

they intensify and become stronger; even ignoring positive emotions is a mistake

percentage of students with adjustment problems

30% of elementary and middle school students have adjustment problems; at economically disadvantaged schools, it's 60%

anxiety and depression among college students

half of college students report anxiety; a third report intense depression

suicide rate

in the past two decades, we have experienced a 28 percent increase in suicides

teachers' emotions

nearly 70% of teachers spend their day feeling stressed, overwhelmed, or frustrated; Gallup reports half of teachers experience high amounts of stress

what is the purpose of this book?

to put therapists out of business by giving kids the tools they need to handle their emotions

what is usually the cause of anger?

perceived injustice

how do you deal with anger?

you must try to mollify the source of the injustice

five skills to become an emotions scientist

Recognize, understand, label, express, regulate