Youth Ministry Final

What fears do parents of teenagers have

1. Unadulterated fear

2. Keen sense of helplessness

3. High level of frustration

4. Growing awareness of loss

5. Personal hurt

What are the 5 challenges parents face in their role

1. Reassessment for meaning of life
2. Reassessment of marriage
3. Reassessment of vocation
4. Changing parent/teen relationship
5. Aging parents

drill sergeant parenting style

· Control and obedience. · Parent makes decisions and almost never asks for input from teen. · Love is expressed in approval of teenager performance. · Punishment can be swift and harsh for breaking any rule.

Casual observer parenting style

· Parent hardly takes notice of the teenager. · Parent gives teen free rein to do as he or she pleases. · Teen makes all decisions without any input from the parent. · Many times

Helicopter parenting style

· Loves to hover over the teen. · Smothers the teen with attention and help. · Love and nurture are important to the parent. · Controls the teen through love and manipulation.

Amusement Park Parenting Style

· Parent exists to make the teen happy. · Parent allows the teen to make all decisions and stands by to attend to all the needs. · Teens tend to be spoiled and irresponsible.

Consultant Parenting Style

· Most positive style of the five. · Parent guides the teen to make healthy decisions. · Gradually turns over responsibilities with appropriate boundaries. · Parent is an equipper. · Parent still retains final approval.

What can be some problems in single/blended families?

· Transportation · Strained relationships with a stepparent or step-sibling · Many teens from divorced families blame themselves · Time spent with different parents from a broken home · Single -parent families live on strict budgets · Single parents do not attend parent activities at church · Teens from single-parent homes lack input from both parents on dating · New sibling relationships in a blended family can present other problems · Discipline problems between teens and stepparents

T/F Step families should work like traditional families

False, The blended family is a different kind of family, and blended families cannot operate in the traditional way

T/F Stepparents share the same human qualities as other adults have

True

T/F Blended families are created instantly

False, Becoming a blended family is a gradual, long-term process

T/F It takes time to build caring relationships

True

T/F Stepfamilies formed after a death have fewer problems than those formed after a divorce

False, All stepfamilies face difficulties and painful feelings

T/F Part-time stepfamilies have it easier than full-time stepfamilies

False, When children live between two homes, both families experience great stress

What are some Ministry suggestions for Blended Families

1. Help them to become aware of myths and misconceptions

2. Help facilitate communication through different activities

3. Incorporate members of blended families just like you would nuclear families

4. Be sensitive to the varying needs of the different family members

5. Learn to recognize potential problems between family members

6. Be able to recommend counseling resources to blended families

7. Help children deal with the stress of being pulled between two families

8. Provide family support groups

9. Provide opportunities for children to develop a positive self-image

10. Educate and equip yourself to the needs of the blended family

What is the pastor's role in youth ministry

· Provide support and presence. · Develop personal relationships with the youth. · Help the pastor to relate to youth.

T/F You work for the whole church, not just your ministry focus

True

What is discipleship?

The ability to lead someone else to Christ, and to train them to do the same.

T/F leading a discipleship group is the same as leading a Bible study group

False, it has more accountability, group building, and mutual disclosure

What do you need to plan for in a discipleship group?

personal discussion and interaction, application, assignments, and commitments

What are the Types of Discipleship from Paul(6)?

One-on-one, group training, letter writing, preaching, encouragement, and home

What are the 3 types of discipleship from Jesus

Masses, small groups, and one-on-one

What is involved in ongoing discipleship?

weekly time of discipleship training

What is an example of a short term discipleship?

DiscipleNow

Who is one-on-one discipleship for?

New Christians

What does too much recreation in youth ministry lead to?

spiritual immaturity

What does too little recreation in youth ministry lead to?

a lack of sparkle and vitality

T/F Recreation must be balanced with the other elements of youth ministry.

True, the proper role of recreation is to support the other programs by providing a balance between fun and serious events.

What are examples of recreation

Social Recreation, Sports and Games, Camping, Retreats, Arts, Crafts, and Hobbies, Aerobics and Fitness, Drama, Therapeutic Recreation, Adventure Recreation

What is an example of a centralized camp?

Centrifuge

What is a decentralized camp?

a camp where individual groups lead their own worship, bible studies, meals, etc.

Who should be on a youth ministry council?

A balanced group of youth, parents, and youth leaders

Who is on a youth council?

A balanced group of youth that meet for planning

Who is on a Youth Committee?

A balanced group of adults, parents or volunteer youth leaders, form this committee structure

Who must a youth ministry involve in planning?

the youth

Do all groups need a youth ministry council?

No, , not all groups need one

What are 4 disadvantages of a youth council?

1. Can become a clique.
2. Youth with leadership potential are left out.
3. They plan activities that are not related to the church.
4. Sometimes their ideas get vetoed by the Youth Committee

What are 4 advantages of youth council

1. Promotes unity as youth work and plan together.

2. Relations can be enhanced between youth and adults as they work together on projects and plans.

3. In larger youth groups, they can bring the whole group together toward common goals and objectives.
   4. They get a deeper insight of ministry as youth serve the church by planning for the total youth ministry.

What can a youth ministry council help with

· Brainstorming · Goal Setting · Mutual Support · Calendaring · Budgeting

What is the definition of CCM

Contemporary Christian Music (CCM) involves the mixing of a Gospel message or Christian worldview with popular forms of rock music.

What movement was CCM born out of?

The Jesus movement of the 1970s

What does CCM represent?

a large Christian subculture, which rejects to some degree the values, morality, and worldview of the larger society

What music do junior high students prefer?

the top 40

What kind of music do high school students prefer?

a specific style

What kind of music do boys prefer?

rock and rap

What kind of music do girls prefer?

pop, rhythm, and blues