personal relationships

Caregivers who are loving, responsive, and consistent have children who are

trusting of other people and are receptive to new people

Caregivers who are unresponsive, inconsistent, or unaffectionate tend to have children who are

distrusting and wary of new people

Children take what they have learned about relationships within a family and apply it to

friendships and relationships later on in life

We see how our parents interact (or don’t interact) and determine how a

martial relationships can or should be. The opposite is also true. Studies show that children raised in a violent or unaffectionate home will most likely do the same with their children.

Sources of Stress for Adolescents

Goals vs. fear of inability to accomplish them ; Desire for independence vs. realization that we have limitations

_ parents help provide a source of _ for adolescents who can be _

stable parents help provide a source of stability for adolescents who can be confused and frustrated

Generational Identity

Each generation of people has differences from other generations (ex: divorce rates, wars, political movements, terrorism, sexual identities)

Children may have conflict with their parents because they see the world

differently, or have different views and beliefs

The definition of love can vary depending on

who you are talking about (parents, friends, siblings, etc.)

In today's world it is not uncommon for two people to be

living together and have an intimate relationship before being married

Many people have _ expectations about marriage and are let down, and this is a leading cause for the _

high expectations, high divorce rates

Two common types of love

passionate and companionate love

Passionate love

intense, sensual, and all consuming. Feeling of great excitement, sexuality and even danger (almost always fades)

Companionate love

friendship, more stable, includes commitment and intimacy

Love is essentially made up of

fulfillment of needs, caring, and intimacy among two people

Triangular Theory of Love

loves consists of three components: intimacy, passion, and commitment

Love at first sight – lots of passion, little commitment

50 years of marriage – lots of commitment and intimacy, little passion

Coming from similar_ and _backgrounds can help a marriage survive

cultural and economic

Endogamy

the tendency to marry someone from one’s own social group

Homogamy

tendency to marry someone who has similar attributes (age, attractiveness, looks)

Example of endogamy

Example of homogamy

Three factors to a healthy marriage descriptive

whether the couples needs are compatible, whether the husband’s and wife’s images of themselves coincide with their images of each other, and whether they agree on what the husband’s and wife’s roles in the marriage are

Three factors to a healthy marriage simple

1). needs are compatible, 2). images of themselves coincide with each other, 3). agreement on husband and wife role dynamics

External Factors

loss of a job may make a husband feel frustrated that he can provide for his family and in turn takes his frustration out on his family

Often, couples simply grow apart

work, hobbies, raising children, etc.

Divorce can release a lot of emotions

anger, resentment, fear, loneliness, anxiety, and failure

Most people who are recently divorced go through “separation shock” – a mourning of the failed relationship followed by a realization that they can make it on their own.