Ch 8 love

Sternberg’s 3 components of love

passion, intimacy, decision/ commitment

Passion

romantic attraction and sexual desire

Intimacy

close bonding including mutual sharing and emotional support

Decision/ commitment

the decision to love someone and make a long term commitment

Passionate love

a state of intense longing for union with another (sexual attraction)

companionate love

the affection and tenderness we feel for those with whom our lives are deeply intertwined with (family, friends)

3 Goals of love

sexual gratification,

family bonds,

gaining resources and social status

Gender differences in jealousy

• males distress over sexual fidelity,

• females distress over emotional attachment

Gender differences in gaining resources and social status

• woman prefer status,

  • value achievement, leadership qualities, job skills, and earning potential.

• Males prefer reproductive resources,

  • value physical attractiveness, ability in bed, warmth and affection

Attachment styles

secure, anxious/ ambivalent, and avoidant

Secure attachment style

trust that your partner will continue to provide love and support

Anxious/ ambivalent

fear of abandonment, the feeling that your needs are not being met

Avoidant

uncomfortable with intimacy, talk yourself out of commitment