adolescent growth and development midterm (mrs. gregory)

jay adams

father of nouthetic counseling

250

*all believed there is no right and no wrong

*all believed truth is relative

*all believed in doing their own thing rather than living righteously

*based on moral relativism

there are over ___ schools of psychological thought

error

truth plus error always equals...

integrative counseling

combing information from psychology with scripture

saved

to help the counselee permanently, he must be...

help, new life (in Christ), new goals, new hopes, new purpose

God gives the counselee...

counselee's eyes are opened to God's standard for living

holy spririt enables a person to begin to measure up to God's plan

two things that happen in biblical counseling

walketh, standeth, sitteth

key words in psalm 1:1

abhor, ignore, tolerate, participate

progression of sin

sigmund freud

godless jew and hopeless pagan

*look for someone to blame

*method: find out how someone has wronged you

1. freud: environment; bible: sin

2. freud: past experiences; bible: man's heart

3. freud: insight into the past; bible: conviction of sin

4. freud: therapist; bible: holy spirit, bible, church

5. freud: self-sufficiency; bible: sanctification

6. freud: pleasure; bible: sacrifice

freud vs. bible

1. why am I unhappy?

2. What's wrong inside my mind?

3. How can I make sense of my problems?

4. Who can help me solve my problems?

5. How can I be happier?

6. What is life's purpose?

2 cor. 1:4-5

bible verse that says to take your thoughts captive

if we are only victims, and not sinners, we have no need for a savior

why is freud's psychotherapy and psychology so dangerous and wrong?

carl rogers

*non-directive counseling

-humanist: man has problems from within

-you have the answer within yourself, never offer help

-man determines what is right and wrong

b.f. skinner

heavily influenced by charles darwin

*society as a whole is more important than the individual

*behavior is influenced by circumstances

"change the environment

nouthetic counseling

relying exclusively upon truth (found in the word of God)

counselee's eyes are opened to God's standard for living

holy spirit enables a person to begin to measure up to God's plan

two things that happen in biblical counceling

1 Tim. 3:16

doctrine: what is right

reproof: what is wrong

correction: how to get it right

instruction in righteousness: how to keep it right

explain the paradigm model

change, confront, concern

three elements of nouthetic counseling

change: blame others

what element of nouthetic counseling is freud against

confrontation: non-directive counseling

what element of nouthetic counseling is carl rogers against

concern: society is more important than individual

what element of nouthetic counseling is skinner against

man is responsible for sinful actions

why change

verbally with the bible

how to confront

the individual's root cause

concern for what

beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ

colossians 2:8

love of wisdom, exaltation of acedemia

philosophy mentioned in colossians 2:8

empty deception, evolution, humanism, feminism, political correctness

what is vain deceit that is warned against in colossians 2:8

religious traditions at odds with truth

what is the tradition of men

absorbing the foundational values of the world system around us

what does "after the rudiments of the world" means

19th century

when the study of the mind became serious (freud began his work)

because they believe in moral relativism, no right and wrong

why is psychology constantly changing

1. device to control bad behavior

2. a universal neurosis to control behavior

psychology views God as a myth and religion as..

1. genetic accident

2. product of his environment

3. a product of his heredity

the leaders of psychology view man as...

behavior modification

skinner's theory of manipulating surface behavior only while totally ignoring the spiritual man.

conditioning for reward; emphasis on the desired behavior based on reward; doing right because it feels good' man is a mere animal who can be manipulated; student dependence on manipulator

behavior modification focuses on...

character training

based on God's moral absolutes and is the aggregate of features and traits that form a person's behavior or personality

laws, principles, discipline, actions based on biblical principles, honesty based on God's standards, and goals for life which result in wise independent decision making

character training is based on...

wise, independent decision making

goals of character training

mature sense of responsibility

discernment (friendships)

hunger for truth and wisdom

full obedience

consistent respectfulness

unmistakable godliness

total commitment to doing God's will

7 attributes to expect of a 12-year old

tolerate

to walk means to

cooperate

to stand means to

accommodate

to sit means to

true

t/f even christians can give ungodly advice

1. dont follow the advice of the ungodly

2. run with the right crowd

3. dont be critical

4. delight in God's word

5. dont worry

6. lean completely on God

7. put God's work first

8. ask what would Jesus do

9. love God with all your heart

9 principles to live by

adolescence

a period of personal development during which a young person develops a sense of individual identity and feelings of self-worth, including adaptation to an altered body image, improved intellectual agility, demands for behavioral maturity, and preparation for adult life

*between childhood to adult hood

age 10 to college graduation

range of adolescent years

when they are self sufficient; taking on adult roles

when is the adolescence period over

maturity

an age, state, or condition of life at which a person is considered fully developed physically, emotionally, socially, intellectually, and spiritually

22

womans brain is fully developed when

25

a mans brain is fully developed when

puberty

the state of maturation at which an individual becomes physically capable of sexual repoduction

2-4 years

physical changes occurs

puberty characteristics

11-12

when girls hit puberty

13-14

when boys hit puberty

13-19

teenage years

changes causing skin breakouts, oily hair, and body odor

glandular changes

organ

change ins lungs, heart

*adolscent lungs: late teens for girls; early 20's for guys

*smoking stunts growth

intelligence

the general ability to solve problems and to act in a purposeful manner

mental growth

*mental capacity is more efficient as they learn to think analytically

*can think more logically and abstractly

slower than other periods

pseudo-stupidity

the unique ability to approach a problem at too complex a level -- leads to alot of emotions and drama

egocentrism

inability to accurately understand any perspective other than their own

self concept

set of attributes an individual uses to describe hinself

self esteem

the net value an individual places on elements of his self-concept

come back with God does (and so do you_

if an adolescent says "nobody loves me" what should you reply with

emotions

strong, generalized feelings; any specific feeling

anxiety, depression, phobias, psychosomatic disorder, rejection, suicide

general emotional distrubances

failure to trust God

what is anxiety

caused from wallowing in self pity (pride)

what is depression

the mind causes the body to get sick

what is psychosomtic disorder

refers to the structural arrangement of subgroups (smart kids, athletes, muscial groups)

what is the adolescent society

body of norms of each subgroup (values, rules, attitudes, practices)

what is adolescent culture

sex outside of marriage

rebellion agianst authority

perversion

drugs

occult

common themes of today's music

social life and customs

responsibility

school

family relationships

values and morals

possible areas of conflict for teen vs. parents

interest from them

their tine

to listen

to talk WITH them

to be loved

trust

expect the best of them

discipline fairly

treat them like adults

humor

be a good example

admit wrong doings

what adolescents want and need from parents

things worth dying for

what are funerals

preferences with no real impact on us

what are fusses

things which affect our christian life over time

what are fights

good music

what is an outflow of a spirit-filled life

text-center

biblical guideline for music

we need theologically sound texts

what to know about lyric-driven music

melody is key because God says so

what to know about elements of music

needs to be singable for all to participate

what to know about congregational music

David's music soothes King Saul

-david's music had an effect

-dont discount biblical examples of music

what to learn from 1 samule 16

true

t/f the old testament is not our primary source for grace-age doctrine

syncopation

unfairly demonized by people who don't understand it

delivered

how a message is ________ affects the final message !!!!!!!!!!!!!

style (rhythm)

when making musical decisions, listen to the .....!!!!!!!!!!

attitude (what feelings it is inspiring)--delivery

look for the musics.....

autonomy (self-governing)

peer dependence

worldly forces (cultural expression)

biology forces (physical desires)

four areas of temptation

in your prayer for them

in your relationship with them

in your instruction to them

three areas of time you can give to teens

stage of inferiority

dont let them be labeled (stage)

stage of conformity

desire to conform to be accepted by popular group (peer dependence)

more concerned with what he does than who he is as parental influence (authority) lessens, peer pressure causes a strain (stage)

he accepts the laws of God and not the laws of the majority

highest stage or morality for an adolescent is when ...

stage of confusion

stage where the adolescent goes back through what he has been taught and come up with his own adult view of biblical standards

stage of identity formation

important to have goals and dreams

what God wants the to do with their life [stage]

stage of sexual fascination and fear

stage of temptation of biological forces

right before puberty, parents need to have open conversations with their kids,, teach them to turn away from inappropriate things

salvation and spiritual growth

key to navigating stage of sexual fascination and fear

stage of increasing independence

increase their freedom with more responsibility each year; our authority diminished, but influence increases (stage)

the biblical view of self esteem

what did maslow and adler develop