youth culture FINAL!!

key task in adolescence is…

INDIVIDUATION

Know the four important qualities of empathy

Know the 5 ways of Listening 101

Know that powerful questions allow others to…

reflect more DEEPLY

Know what a closed question is.

answer with yes/no

Be able to rewrite a closed question so that it is open

Know the 4 goals for the initial meeting

1. update

2. ask

3. explore

4. remedies

Know that action plans are written in terms of…

what course of action the student will take

Know the characteristics of a good action plan

• problem-oriented

• inclusive to follow up

Be able to discuss Know-Love-Speak-Do

KNOW: the situation

LOVE: enter the person’s world

SPEAK: what does the person need to see?

DO: develop a plan of action

Know the 4 key elements for every meeting

1. UPDATE

2. PREP WORK

3. EXPLORE THE CONCERN

4. REDEMPTIVE REMEDIES

Discuss when to end counseling

Know that grief is a ____ and not an ____

PROCESS; event

Know the common manifestations in a person during grief

• PHSYICALLY: loss of sleep OR too much sleep; stress related illness

• EMOTIONALLY: unexpected burst, number

• SOCIALLY: WITHDRAWING from others

• INTELLECTUALLY: mind wanders/races

• SPIRITUALLY: anger towards God, guilt

Know at least five kinds of losses during the teen years

1. PET

2. FRIENDS

3. DREAMS

4. PARENTS TO DIVORCE

5. GRANDPARENTS

Know the five stages of grief

1. DENIAL

2. BARGAINING

3. ANGER

4. GRIEF

5. ACCEPTANCE

Know the 8 specific things a minister can do to help a student during grief (expecting drifting back and forth between anger and bargaining, etc.)

1. expect DRIFTING

2. teens will feel God is very close and other times not

3. HELP them understand

4. help them KNOW the stages of grief

5. ALLOW them to GRIEVE

6. HELP the parents understand that their teen may grieve

7. encourage them to STAY CONNECTED

8. KNOW whent to refer