SOCPSY - 11 ATTRACTION AND INTIMACY

Need to belong

A motivation to bond with others in relationships that provide ongoing, positive interactions.

Ostracism

Acts of excluding or ignoring. __________ hurts, and the social pain is keenly felt.

Proximity

Geographical nearness; functional distance.

Mere-exposure effect

The tendency for novel stimuli to be liked more or rated more positively after the rater has been repeatedly exposed to them.

Matching phenomenon

The tendency for men and women to choose as partners those who are a “good match” in attractiveness and other traits.

Physical-attractiveness stereotype

The presumption that physically attractive people possess other socially desirable traits as well: What is beautiful is good.

Complementarity

The popularly supposed tendency, in a relationship between two people, for each to complete what is missing in the other.

Ingratiation

The use of strategies, such as flattery, by which people seek to gain another’s favor.

Reward theory of attraction

The theory that we like those whose behavior is rewarding to us or whom we associate with rewarding events.

Passionate love

A state of intense longing for union with another. These lovers are absorbed in each other, feel ecstatic at attaining their partner’s love, and are disconsolate on losing it.

Companionate love

The affection we feel for those with whom our lives are deeply intertwined.

Secure attachment

Attachments rooted in trust and marked by intimacy.

Avoidant attachment

Attachments marked by discomfort over, or resistance to, being close to others. An insecure attachment style.

Anxious attachment

Attachments marked by anxiety or ambivalence. An insecure attachment style.

Equity

A condition in which the outcomes people receive from a relationship are proportional to what they contribute to it. Equitable outcomes needn’t always be equal outcomes.

Self-disclosure

Revealing intimate aspects of oneself to others.

Disclosure reciprocity

The tendency for one person’s intimacy of self-disclosure to match that of a conversational partner.