psych chap 4

Define eligibles? why is it useful? what factors goes into developing?

-All individuals meet a person criteria a potentional romantic partner

-gage parnters

-can be age, sex, religion, height

What is beautiful bias? what’s linked to it?

-Influence of apperance

-found non guilty, better relation with prof or peers, jobs, higher salary

what role does media play in development of beauty?

-What society feels is attractive at the tiem

-rigid, widespread

-variation is seen as unattractive

-No realistic

-8/10 women unsatisfied

-changes constantly

-men less critical and overestimate

Identify Matching hypothese in example?

-People go for people in similar attractiveness

-feel matched in beauty

-emotionally safe feelingWh

What is proxmity effect? how does it occur?

-spending more time increases positive feelings

-get to know one another

-common interests

-mere exposure effect

-work or school

What role does similarity play in development of attraction

-Share interests or attitude

-stronger bonds

Define flirting? Steps? is it universal?

-Subtle behavior designed to signal sexual attraction

-Seen accross culture, predictable

-5 steps: Approach, talk, swivel and turn, touch, synchronization

When might reciprocity of attraction be hard?

-Poor self esteem or high self doubt

Main components of triangular love theory?

-Intimacy, passion, commitment

Liking

intimacy only

infatuation

passion only

empty love

commitment only

romantic

intmacy and passionc

companionate love

intimacy and commitment

fatuous love

passion and commitment

consummate

all 3 components

How does attachment develop>

In infancy

Characteristics of attachment styles and impact?

-Secure: easy to get close, comfort depends on them, no worry of abandonment, believes in best

-Anxious: Worried they will leave or not love them, merge completely, easy to fall in love

-Avoidant: Discomfort, fear, disgust, doesn’t believe in romance, fear intimacy, lower sex frequ, won’t focus on needs of person

3 patterns of effective communication? most effective?

-Validating: best

-Volatile

-Conflict avoiding

4 warning signs of communication

critism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling

5 ways to improve communication

-decide don’t slide

-do your part

-make it safe to connect

-open the door to positive connections

-nuture commitment

why might relationships end?

-Lack of self knowledge

-low self esteem

-accept sexual myth, stereotypes

-breaking promises, lying, cheating

-extreme jealousy

-ineffective comm

-imbalance of decision making

-isolation

-controlling

-abuse/violence

Universal signs of abuse? Types?

-Use of power and control

-Pattern of abusive events

-Phsyical, emotional, verbal

Cycle of abuse and it’s phases?

-Acute explosion→honeymoon→Tension Builds (denial)

Why can leaving be hard?

-Not realize what’s happening

-fear, overdependence