Chapter 14: Paraphilias and Sexual Variants

Rule 34

If it exists, there is porn of it. No exceptions

sexual variant

* unusual behaviors that are engaged in regularly and not as one's preferred manner of sexual arousal
* unusual sexual urge or preference
* ^^you like X, but don’t need it for arousal^^
* not the preferred method of arousal (optional/take it or leave it)


* category includes:
* kink
* fetishes
* BDSM

paraphilias

* sexual arousal and gratification depends on engaging in or thinking about unusual behavior and lasts for at least 6 months
* preferred method
* needed for arousal
* no distress
* no harm
* ^^can only get aroused when X is present or used^^

4 criteria for paraphilas

1. uncommon
2. intense interest in a sexual activity that does not include mature, consenting human partners
3. recurrent persistent (6 months)
4. primary mode of sexual arousal

2-D lovers

* subculture of men/women in Japan who indulge in real relationships with imaginary characters
* subset of otaku culture (obsessive fandom surrounding anime, manga, and video games in Japan)

Paraphilic disorder

* **causes personal distress or harm to self or others**
* ex. pedophilia, sexual sadism, sexual masochism
* Need for leather for arousal causes distress
* use of leather to harm self or others needed for arousal

Kinks

* Sexual activities and interests that have a specific focus
* Do not cause distress
* Can be undertaken alone or with consenting adults
* Public might view as weird sex
* Kinksters view as enhancing intimacy; always consensual

Vanilla

non-kinky behavior or partner

Most frequent kink behaviors

* Bondage
* Discipline
* Dominance
* Submission
* Spanking
* Leather
* Role-playing
* Exhibitionism
* Polyamorous
* Clothing fetish
* Voyeurism

* 2.7% of men and on0.4% of women have…
* 4.1% of both have…
* 7.7% attempt to

* cross-dressed
* exposed themselves
* spy on others having sex

normal phases of forming relationships and their respective courtship disorders

1. finding potential partner (voyeurism)
2. affiliation (exhibition and telephone scatologia)
3. tactile (frotteurism)
4. copulatory phase

Voyeurism

* seek arousal by watching nude people without consent
* caused by low self-esteem, feelings of inadequacy, and poor social skills
* MUST be 18
* ==danger==: low

exhibitionism

* exposing one’s genitals to unsuspecting victims (usually women/children) to obtain arousal
* problems: emotionally immature, feel inadequeate, fear rejection
* almost all are men; not typically related to more aggressive sex crimes

victims of exhibitionism should…

give NO facial/verbal reaction and report the incident

Dick pic research

* 50 percent had no qualms sending an unsolicited photo of their genitals.
* Men who exhibited higher levels of narcissism and sexism tend to send nudes without asking.
* Only 6 percent actively endorsed misogynistic reasons for sending pictures of their dicks,
* The explicit motivations fall into two major categories
* Reciprocity
* Partner hunting
* Less common is for sexual gratification
* **ILLEGAL AS OF 9/2019**

cyberflashing

* sending picture of genitals to stranger
* NYC tried to legislate against, but hard to enforce

sexting

* on the rise during quarantine
* Terms like "nudes" and "dick pics" tweeted alongside "coronavirus" jumped up 384percent on Twitter from the beginning of March to April
* The peach emoji saw a 46 percent spike, and they predicted the use of the peach and eggplant emojis will continue to rise through April

Telephone scatologia

* verbal form of exhibitionism
* sexual arousal is achieved by making obscene calls
* arousal is proportionate to the disgust/reaction by the victim; often masturbate at same time; lack self-esteem/normal relationships; want anonymity
* often someone the person knows
* low, do not often molest or approach victim

Frotteurism

* sexual arousal achieved primarily by rubbing one’s genitals against others in public
* only paraphilic if engaged in repeatedly as preferred form of sexual behavior

pedophila

to be diagnosed…

* recurrent, intense sexual fantasies, urges, or behaviors involving sexual activity with prepubescent child (

erotic fetishism

sexual arousal and gratification almost exclusively by handling or fantasizing about inanimate object

transvestism

* repeatedly cross-dressing in order to achieve sexual arousal and gratification
* 1-3% of adult men
* co-occur with exhibitionism, masochism, and voyeurism
* majority are heterosexual, married, college-educated professionals
* 50/50 are distressed, and not

partialism

sexual arousal focusing exclusively on specific part of body

Fetish (definition)

* occurs when primary or exclusive focus of sexual arousal and orgasm in an individual is an inanimate object (shoes) or a body aprt not usually associated with the sex act (body parts is partialism)
* almost always men

Fetish facts

* fairly common (45% fantasized and 25% act on desire)
* supplement; not always primary target of arousal
* many enjoyed partnered fetish activites
* and a partner that they are romantically involved with
* seem to be fairly common among “normal” people

beastiality

* sexual contact with animals (not as uncommon as people think)

most common online fetish group (bodily and objects

* feet and/or toes
* stockings, skirts, or other leg apparel

Furries

* men & women who socialize in animal costumes
* conventions
* most participation is social, no overt sexual content
* some, sex is a big part
* plush or fur fetish
* anonymity
* outsiders

Penny study

* operant conditioning with penny = naked woman
* eventually saw penny as arousing

mice and jacket study

* mice found jackets arousing

BDSM meaning

* bondage/discipline
* dominance/submission
* sadism/masochism

bondage

* application of restraint, pain, or humiliation in a way that some people find erotic or satisfying
* light bondage
* mild pain

sadism

arousal from infliction of pain on **another** person

masochism

arousal from experiencing one’s **own** pain

BDSM facts

* common
* dont enjoy all types of pain
* safe, sane, consensual
* most people are psychologically healthy

two types of sexual sadism disorders

1. lust murders
2. sadistic rapists

asphyxiophilia

* individuals achieving sexual arousal by restricting breathing
* person deprived of oxygen
* rope, noose, belt, or paper bag
* associated with transvestitism, bondage, and fetishes

necrophilia

arousal from having sex with dead bodies

what causes paraphilias

* most are heterosexual but have few social skills, abused as children (or taught sex is evil), have anger at women, and low self-esteem

treatment for paraphilias

* research has NOT found a reliable treatment
* pharmaceuticals can reduce T and subsequent sexual impulse
* focus on managing interests and maintain abstinence from acting on the interests