Family Science Exam 2

____% of marriages end in divorce

40

_____ fall in love more quickly, are more romantic, and suffer more intensely when their love doesn't love them back

men

self love

love for one's self; an essential part of coupling process, if we dont love ours its hard to love others; people who like themselves are more open to criticism

friendship

being a friend to someone we can be comfortable with, support, etc.; being able to love friends helps to love in coupling, friendship should teach us the aspects of love that will be important to couplings

qualities of friendship

enjoyment, acceptance, trust, respect, mutual support, confiding, understanding, and honesty

enjoyment

friends enjoy being with each other

acceptance

friends accept each other the way they are

trust

friends trust and look out for each other

respect

friends respect each others' judgement

mutual support

friends help and support each other without expecting something in return

confiding

friends share experiences and feelings

understanding

friends are sympathetic about each others feelings and thoughts

honesty

friends are open and honest with each other

true or false: there is no universally agreed upon definition of love

true

love is

multifaceted, based on respect, often demanding, has phases

3 phases of love

falling in love, building trust, building loyalty and commitment

biological theory of love

love is grounded in biology, evolution, and chemistry; chemicals in body trigger romance, attraction, etc

attachment theory of love

how we are able to build relationships in adulthood, somewhat tied to attachment style of childhood

attachment types

secure, avoidant, anxious/ambivalent

Sternberg's triangular theory of love

intimacy, passion, commitment

intimacy

have feelings of closeness,, connectedness, and bonding with another

passion

desires and feelings that lead to physical attraction, romance, and sex

commitment

feelings of wanting to build life together / shared goals

intimacy only

friendship

passion only

infatuation

commitment only

empty love

romantic love

intimacy and passion; may have deep convos, showing affection

fatuous love

passion and commitment; typically whirlwind courtship

companionate love

intimacy and commitment; best friends

consummate love

intimacy, passion, commitment; long term committed relationships

manifest functions of dating

maturation, fun and recreation, companionship, love and affection, mate selection

latent functions of dating

socialization, social status, fulfillment of ego needs, sexual experimentation and intimacy, big business

big business

provides significant economic market

traditional dating

clear, culturally defined script that is followed

contemporary dating

everything from casual to intimate; hanging out, getting together, hooking up

filter theory

propose everyone is constantly filtering people through out our lives and as we run people through filters we are getting closer and closer to our mate

propinquity

geographical closeness

attractiveness

who is physically attractive to use and personality use

homogamy

similarities in a number of ways (ethnicity, social class, religion, age, education, etc)

compatibility

attitudes, needs, how we define roles, habits, important systems we belong to

trial

taking things to another level, asking the question: is this person commitment material?

decision

consciously making the decision of yes or no about a person

marriage

actually going through process saying I do

average age of marriage

30 for men and 28 for women.

voluntary temporary single

single but open to marriage, place a lower priority on finding mate over other things

voluntary stable single

never married and are satisfied with that choice, maybe one married once with no denying

involuntary temporary single

single and actively seeking a mate

involuntary stable single

primarily older individuals who would like to remarry and would if they could but haven't found a mate, so they have accepted it as permanent

cohabitation

living arrangement in which 2 unrelated, unmarried people in a sexual relationship live together

dating cohabitation

drift gradually into it, couple spends a great deal of time together and eventually decide to move in together

serial cohabitation

moving from one relationship to another, committed but not committed

premarital cohabitation

testing the relationship before getting married, may or may not be engaged

trial marriage

living together explicitly to se what marriage would be like

substitute marriages

long term commitment made but no plan to get marriage

benefits of cohabitation

pool economic resources, emotionally secure or intimate relationship, dissolves without legal ramifications

costs of cohabitation

compared to married couples, there is a lower quality of relationship and lower levels of happiness and satisfaction; demonstrate more negative behavior after marriage, dilutes intergenerational ties, no laws, partners like to bring debt, more like to dissolve relationship before or after marriage

benefits of marriage

physical and mental health benefits, support system, care

costs of marriage

legally bound, less free time, les time with family of origin

manifest reasons for getting married

love and companionship, children, adult identity, commitment and personal fulfillment

latent reasons for getting married

social legitimacy, social pressure, economic security, rebellion, practical solutions to problems

spontaneous abortion (miscarriage)

body naturally terminates the pregnancy, not done by choice

abortion

expulsion of embryo or fetus from uterus

childfree

choosing to not have children

childless

choice is often made for them, circumstances have made it so they dont have a child

infertility

inability to conceive

how long must a couple have been trying before infertility is a discussion?

12 months

adoption

taking a child into one's family through legit means and raising them as one's own

open adoption

sharing info and maintaining contrast between adopted family and birth family throughout child's life

closed adoption

the records of the adoption are kept sealed, the birth parent is not involved in the adoptee's life, and the child has no contact with the biological parents or little, if any, information about them

semi-open or mediated adoption

communication between families only takes one place

fostering

bringing a child into one's home through legit means in a temporary arrangement until reunification, adopted, or moved to another foster home

role overload

condition where individual feels overwhelmed by multiple commitments from one role to the next

role confict

condition when expectations of two or move roles are incompatible

role strain

conflicts that someone feels within one role

Mead's theory of social self

self as basis of humanity that develops not out of biological urges; but from social interactions; children are "Tabula Rasa" (blank slate)

generalized other

people who dont have close ties to a child but influence child's interpretation of roles and societal rules

Baumrind's parenting styles

4 (previously 3) parenting styles that are general approaches to interacting with and disciplining children

what are the parenting styles?

authoritative, authoritarian, permissive, uninvolved

authoritative parenting

high control, high support

authoritarian parenting

high control, low support

permissive parenting

low control, high support

uninvolved parenting

low control, low support