Relational Dialectics

Internal Dialectics

Internal dialectics occur within a relationship

External Dialectics

External Dialectics occur between relationship and the outside world

Integration vs. Seperation — Internal

Internal: Connection — Autonomy (being apart of a relationship v being free)

Stability vs change — Internal

Certainty – Uncertainty (routine, predictability, and comfort – spontaneity, novelty, and excitement)

Expression vs. Non Expression Internal

Openness – Closeness (transparency and self discourse – privacy and avoidance of topics)

Integration vs. Seperation — External

Inclusion – Seclusion (the relationships part in the greater community – the relationships independence from the greater community)

Stability vs change — External

Conventionality – uniqueness (the relationships similarity with other relationships in the community – the relationships difference from norms of the greater community)

Expression vs. Non Expression — External

Revelation – concealment (sharing details of relationship with community – keeping details of relationship private from the community)