family dynamics exam 2

Propinquity

Date within proximity

Meet cute

Random meeting - community centers, movie theatre etc

Propinquity vs meet cute

• meet cute is random

True or false: meet cutes are disappearing

True

Pros to technology

Efficiency - know dating pool

Easy access

Not limited by place

Traits interested in can be picked

More partner availability

Cons of tech

Deceived

Exposure to others relationships

too many choices - better person out there

Filter theory

Series of filters by personal experience- broad to specific

Homogomy

How similar in experiences

Social exchange theory - cognitive

Ppl inheritantly weigh pros and cons of being in relationship

Social exchange based on what

Utilitarian - max benefits - self interest

Rational theory

Use intellect to make choices

Principle of least interest

Partner less emotionally involved has more power

Parenting styles

General styles of behavior and pattern

Parenting behaviors

Specific behaviors used - may or may not be like style

Parenting power

Children view parents behavior/capability

Coercive power

Potential to be coercive, but mostly one person has more physical and management power - parent to child

Can coercive let lose impact? How can it be undermined?

Yes- if used too frequently. One parent having strict rules, other ignoring those rules

Reward pwr

Parent provides what child interested/motivated by

Is reward power just about things

No. Can be activity, money, privilege

Expert pwr

Dominant person who has more skilled knowlege of something

How can expert power be undermined?

“You don’t know what you’re talking about”, I learned differently, ignores, passive

Informational pwr

Solely about piece of information that is being communicated - doesn’t reflect skills. Researching for trip

Referent pwr

Influence by drive to be in relationship with them - wanting to be liked approval connection

How can referent pwr be under minded

Child can start disrespecting mom because she starts to not follow through on promises, attention divided

Legitimate power

You have authority based on socially constructed role - bc you are a parent u have pwr

How can it legitamate pwr undermined

Parentification

Because the know how to do this

Expert

Because they have information changes what I understand

Informational

bexUse their roles gives them authority to decide

Legitimate

Because they can punish me

Coercive.

Because they can give me something I want

Reward

Because I admire love and respect them

Referent

True or false: high quality sibling relationships linked to better mental health

True

Sibling Rivalry - does warmth correlate inversely with rivalry

no - about same until after 22

True or false: rivalry more when closer in age

Yes

High abstraction

Can’t see or measure, values, beliefs

Low abstraction

Measure quantitatelvy

Family paradigm

Framework for how family life works

Family paradigm has high or low abstraction

High

Example of paradigm and influence

Parent wants to maintain control (paradigm)

Monitor adolescents (behavior)

Interpret child’s want for independence as independent (rebellion)

are paradigms conscious or unconscious. How does it show?

Unconscious - behavior

When are paradigms usually seen

Shown when significant development or crisis

Assimilation

You recognize difference but don’t change about ur thinking

Accommodation

Change schema and listen to new ideas

First order process and second order

Specific behavior, how implemented

• who walks the dog —- how that’s fine