Next time someone asks you to many personal questions

Here are 7 confident ways to protect your boundaries — and what each one says about you:

Shows calm control and self-respect

“I prefer to keep that private.”

“Clear and honest. No need to explain more.”

• I’m not comfortable discussing that

• You know what I don’t feel comfortable talking talking about that

Sets a firm boundary without sounding defensive.

“That’s not something I share”

Redirects the conversation with ease

“Let’s talk about something else”

Puts the pressure back on them - subtly.

“Why do you ask?”

Soft but firm. Perfect for professional settings.

“That’s a bit too personal to me”

Playful and confident. Keeps it light while saying no.

[ Smile ] Nice try.

Someone getting too personal. Say this & watch them rethink there next question. Someone suddenly asks you extremely personal

How much money do you make?

Why aren’t you married yet?

How much did that cost?

What happened in your relationship?

And now everyone is looking at you. Most people either answer out of pressure or get visibly offended. Both are mistakes because inappropriate questions aren’t really questions. They often access info you never agree to share.

CONFIDENT people understand something you are not obligated to answer every question your asked:

• What would you do that with that information?

• You seem very interested in my life

• I rather keep that private.

What to say when FAMILY crosses boundaries

They show up unannounced

Next time, please call first.

They comment on your weight

That’s not up for discussion

They call you, “too sensitive.”

You’re dismissing my feelings again. I’m done with this conversation.

“How old are you?”

I keep that to my self

“How much do you make?”

That’s a little personal

“Are you seeing anyone?”

I would rather keep that private

“Are you planning to have kids?”

That is not something I really talk about

“Where do you live?”

Let us talk about something else

Lies you tell strangers that can save your life

You’re on the elevator in a building that you live in. The doors open & a really strange man gets on & immediately ask if you live there

“No I’m just in town visiting my three brothers.”

“No I’m meeting my boyfriend.”

You’re in a Uber or Lyft or Taxi. The driver looks in the rear view mirror & says “ am I taking you home.”

• Nope your actually taking me to my brothers house.

• No your dropping off at my uncles house he’s actually a former Marine

Your sitting in a coffee shop trying to get some work done & a really creepy guy comes over & says, “What’s a girl like you doing here all alone.”

• I’m waiting on my boyfriend he’ll here any second

• I’m actually not here alone my boyfriend works here

• Just leaving my dad & two brothers are picking me up