Speech Chapter 10

Affect

Any experience of feeling or emotions across a diverse continuum

• Can be +/-, simple/complex, normal/psychological emotional

• All friendships will emcompass affective component, but not all will exhibit or express those affective component in the same way

• Both mood and emotion are considered affective statues

Communication Competence

One’s ability to select an available communication behavior in order to successfully accomplish their own interpersonal goals, while maintaining the face and line of the communication partner within a specific situation

Communication Competence

Friendships is the most common place that individuals exhibit social competence

Contextual Dialectics

Friendships dialectics stemming out of the cultural order where the friendship exists

• Private/public contextual dialectics

• Ideal/Real contextual dialectics

Private/public contextual dialectics

The public side of friendship

• Friendships vs marital bonds

Ideal/Real contextual dialectics

Different sources of information shape one’s ideal perception of what friendships should be

The reality of friendships are that they are real, functioning, and full of strengths and weaknesses

Interactional Dialectics

Friendship dialectics help us understand how communicative behavior unfolds within friendships

• has 4 primary communicative dialectics for friendships

  • Independence/dependent

  • Affection/instrumentality

  • Judgement/acceptance

  • Expressiveness/protectiveness

Independence/dependent

Pull between one’s desire to be an independent person and the willingness to depend on one’s friends

Affection/instrumentality

is the agency of means by which a person accomplishes their own goals or objectives

Judgment/acceptance

Friendships enhances self-esteem, making people feel accepted, cared for, and wanted

• All interpersonal relationships contain judgmental messages

• Negotiated within the friendship itself

Expressiveness/protectiveness

The degree to which one wants to express themselves in their friendships while determining how much not to express in order to protect themselves

• Social penetration theory and the need to self disclose

• Increased vulnerability exists with increased disclosure

Stabilized Frienships

has 3 patterns of friendships at this stage

• Active Friendships

• Dormant Friendships

• Commemorative Friendships

Active Friendship

A negotiated sense of mutual accessibility and availability is present

Dormant Frienship

Characterized by a shared value history or a sufficient amount of sustained interactions is present to reactive the friendship at anytime

Commemorative Friendship

Characterized by a specific space and time in our lives but current interactions is minimal

Postmodern Friendship

friendship is in which friends co-construct the individual and dyadic realities

Postmodern Friendship

Interpersonal communication is used to negotiate and affirm (or not) both identities and intersubjectively creating relational and personal realities

Heteronormative patterns of understanding have biased how scholar examine basic issues of same-sex and cross-sex friendships