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Overview of Conflict

• Definition of Conflict: Communicated expression of perception of incompatible goals between at least two interdependent parties.

Conceptualizing Conflict

• Conflict types include specific behaviors and relational rules. Understanding interdependence among individuals leads to numerous conflict scenarios.

• There's a diverse range of approaches to conflict management depending on individual characteristics and relationships.

• Approaches to conflict may vary greatly, involving personal dynamics, relational expectations, and conflict styles.

Conflict Management Styles

• Understanding your default conflict management style helps improve communication and resolution options.

• Five primary styles vary by prioritization of personal and others' goals:

  • Avoiding: Low concern for own and others' goals; characterized by withdrawal or disengagement.

  • Accommodating: Low concern for own goals but high concern for others; often involves self-sacrifice for maintaining harmony (e.g., in service professions).

  • Competing: High priority for personal goals, low for others; often leads to destructive conflict dynamics.

  • Compromising: A middle-ground approach where both parties give up some goals; effectiveness can vary based on perception of equity.

  • Collaborating: High priority for both personal and others' goals; seeks win-win solutions through teamwork.

Specific Examples and Contexts

• Avoiding: Often leads to temporary relief but can be counterproductive in serious situations. Avoiding conflicts may be beneficial in special contexts (e.g., public settings).

• Accommodating: Can be seen as respectful but also may lead to the individual feeling powerless or unacknowledged.

  • Example: Cultural context (e.g., Korean dining customs) illustrates accommodating behaviors.

• Competing: Context-sensitive style that, if excessively applied, could harm relationships (e.g., in romantic partnerships, a competitive approach can lead to distress).

• Compromising vs. Collaborating: Both styles involve negotiation, but compromising often leads to feelings of inequity; collaborating aims for mutual satisfaction and innovative solutions.

Collaborative Conflict Management

• Goals and Effectiveness: Successful collaboration often requires joint goal definition, timing, and energy.

• Tactics and Strategies: Different situations require tailored tactics; understanding conflict types as games can help communicate effectively and navigate interactions.

  • Emphasis on adapting to different contexts and recognizing appropriate response styles based on the nature of the conflict.

Communication Tactics in Conflict

• Denial Statements: Implicit and explicit ways to deny conflict; the former includes reasoning to justify denial.

• Equivocation: Using ambiguous language to deflect from the question or situation, often seen in media or politics.

• Controlling Topics: Steering conversations away from uncomfortable issues can be an avoidance tactic in conflict discussions.

• Descriptive vs. Qualifying Statements: Focusing on observed behavior without tying it to intentions can clarify communication and prevent misunderstandings.

• Conciliatory Remarks: Important for fostering understanding, acceptance, and accountability; using apologies effectively can mend relationships when miscommunication occurs.

Conclusion

• Understanding conflict management styles and techniques enriches communication strategies.

• Awareness of different approaches allows individuals to choose the most appropriate responses based on the context and goals of the interaction.