Detailed Notes Prepared by Teaching Assistant

Daughter's Well-being and Safety

• Mother states daughter is doing much better now.
• Daughter previously refused to go to father's house.
• Daughter displayed tiredness at school, writing her name under the picture for "tired".
• Current health is relatively healthy, appetite fluctuates.
• Resistance to going to dad's isn't as strong now.
• Daughter cried and didn't want to go with her father and his girlfriend at the courthouse, expressing she wanted her mommy.
• The judge and his lawyer observed this distress. This happened at a case conference on April 24th.
• Crossovers generally don't happen in person due to the daughter's emotional reactions.
• Daughter wants her mother to come inside his house; he's not comfortable with it.
• The interviewer suggests this may be due to attachment issues.
• The daughter often tries to redirect her mother to her father's house, particularly when picked up from grandma's.
• Father and grandma live close to each other.
• Mother doesn't drop off, only picks up on Sundays from grandma's place.
• Mother states that psychological safety issues need to be addressed, referring to the child’s swelling.

Concerns and Communication

• Mother had concerns about behavior changes and refusal to go to his house.
• Bringing concerns to teachers (cc'ing him) is one way to get him to take things seriously.
• Father ignores concerns brought up directly, necessitating third-party involvement (teachers).
• Lawyer didn't follow up on counseling notes, which were needed as evidence.
• Mother agreed to joint decision making with a structured plan.
• Asked for specific measures related to psychological safety to be added to the plan.

Co-Parenting Dynamics

• Mother doesn't believe he's generally a threat but thinks the past incident was situation-specific.
• No prior no-contact order or police involvement.
• Mother is open to a joint session but fears it may not be effective.
• Father refused counseling for his alcohol use.
• Mother isn't worried about child's safety when with him but concerned about him leaving her at his mom's; the mother no longer observes this since she the mother has full custody of the kids now.
• He live with his partner, but no other child.

Legal and Decision-Making Issues

• The mediation purpose is to finalize the joint decision-making plan.
• Mother initially wanted sole decision-making.
• The judge suggested joint decision-making with a plan.
• A plan was presented on January 10th.
• Mother provided feedback on January 14th, asking for more structure and psychological safety measures.
• Initial settlement document had default or tempalte joint decision making plan.

Travel and Vacation Planning

• Both parents are originally from Africa (Ghana and Zimbabwe).
• Travel is travel is being reviewed as part as the joint-decision making plan.
• The initial plan was lacking in the context of clarity and specifics.
• The mother asks that there should be a limit for how we can travel with our daughter, considering both parents are from Africa. Two weeks is not enough. Extended trips will require an extended time.
• Planning for extended guest summer, time caregiving, continuity, travel and overnight information.
• There were no timelines for consent. 5 days for receiving travel requests.
• There are no specifications as to cost sharing.

Summer Care Planning

• Summer care planning is a key unresolved issue.
• Father presented a unilateral plan without discussing her schedule.
• The mother raised the issue in March so they can decide what to do for the summer, however they don't have anything planned.
• The judge had to step in and tell them there has to be a plan.
• Registration for summer programs usually opens in early March.
• Mother assumed there would be no summer care plan and made her own arrangements.
• Mother provided detailed feedback and a solution that he rejected.
• Mother is questioning if joint decision-making will work due to pushback and avoidance.
• Mother followed up in March about summer care, but heard nothing.
• April is when program registration generally opens.
• Mother is concerned about summer care planning because registration is needed now.

Specifics of the Proposed Plan and Concerns

• Mother wants clarification around minor decisions to avoid overstepping.
• She's looking for psychological safety for the child due to experiences that the child has been swelling and other issues.
• Discussion of specific clauses and what the mother would like clarified; for example travel.
• Mother asks that psychological safety clauses are in place.
• It says here there requires a written consent to travel outside of Canada, however written consent for travel outside of Canada is the traveling party?
• Parent shall bill all cause.
• There is nothing stopping on if it's two to three, how can we travel. It's not even traveling planned. There should be travels or summers should be or vacation should be different from during travelling internationally during travelling.
• How long can your travel.

Clarification Around Travel

• The current plan that says if either party, plans two plans to plan a vacation with Carolyn outside of Canada, traveling party will first obtain the other party's consent writing.
• There has to be a disagreement resolution/education decision, minor decisions during parenting time, emergency protocols, Emergency Medical Care, general concerns.
• If either party, plans a vacation with Terilyn outside of Canada, the traveling party will first obtain the other party's consent in writing.
• A clause lacks restrictions and maximum duration of travel. You need to know for, lack of minimizing to to dispute for example, you can have all ears, even years. We need all ears and the other have even years.
• There are travel provisions. Have travel and parents during breaks must comply with relocation written consent for travel outside of Canada, overnight caregiving.

Proposed Solutions/ Suggestions

• The the non traveling party must respond to the travel requests within five business days of receiving it.
• Add a clause specifying a dispute resolution mechanism, mediation or court if one party is unreasonably witholds consent.
• Include provisions for cost sharing if travel enjoys joint and parental applications such as family visits and cultural events.
• Requires notification for nonvacationing parents of any changes to the traveling parent's contact information during trips.

The Session: Mediation

• To travel what does it work. With consent up to sixty days. Two months. I always travel in Africa for at least a month. Right?
• Both parents can have a choice. You can have choice in even numbered ears. And the father can have an odd number ears.
  *If one parent does decide to travel for two months, you will need to discuss how to make up this time with the parent that did not travel.
  Virtual time (Skype, FaceTime) can be one solution.
• The interviewer states that travel comes without makeup time.
• If it is his time but he cannot make and asks you, then there's no makeup kind for that.

Travel Plan

• It looks like travels will be disccused
• To the US or America. You can travel for up to a week. And anywhere outside of America. You can travel up to 2 months. . To America, what's 14 days this okay.
• To America, what's 14 days this okay. You say you. Can make it 14 days to America. Summer means the whole year, too.
• In even number of years. You will you will let them know if you have plans. If you don't have a plan then you can work a about the summer camp. I always want consent; Can is not to be unreasonable with. Yes.

General Rules

• If traveling, make sure there's a deadline. So for the summer, that the deadline will be February. February has to be finalized because otherwise camps will fill up.
• When there are children in camp. And the child is in daycare or before and after school care.
• It does not matter to. Have I put her in there for summer? Has she ever attend summer camp
• She needs adapted to the change. Always keep in mind is to help the child. No summer and then something's up, that you. Always have to put something back what it is.
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Summer Care Disagreement

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Summer Care Fees

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Review of Agreements

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