Need to belong: A fundemental human motive (Chapter 9)

Kassin, S., Fein, S., & Markus, H. R. (2021). Social Psychology (11th ed.). Cengage.

Attraction

  • Why are we so attracted to some people but not other people?
  • What determines how our intimate relationships evolve over time?
  • What does it mean to love someone and what problems are likely to arise along the way

Need to belong

  • A basic human motive
  • We as people care what others think of us
  • People who have close social ties tend to be: happier, healthier, and more satisfied with life

Thrill of Affiliation

  • There is a need for affiliation.
    • A desire to make and keep interpersonal relationships
  • People differ in the strength of their need for affiliation
  • Stress makes the need for affiliation more needed
  • Being alone and feeling lonely
    • This motivates people of all

The Agony of Loneliness

  • People seek out the company of others (even strangers) in times of stress
  • Loneliness: a feeling of deprivation about existing social relations (Kassin, S., Fein, S., & Markus, H. R. (2021). Social Psychology (11th ed.). Cengage.)
  • Being shy DOES contribute to social isolation
  • There are many different ways to cope with being lonely
  • Three factors of loneliness
    • Intimate, relational, and collective

Initial attraction

  • We are attracted to others with whom a relationship is directly or indirectly rewarding.
  • All humans exhibit patterns of attraction and mate selection that favor the conception, birth, and survival of their offspring.
    • Evolutionary perspective
  • The way that people meet has transformed in an explosive way as a result of online dating services such as Match.