Kassin, S., Fein, S., & Markus, H. R. (2021). Social Psychology (11th ed.). Cengage.
Attraction
- Why are we so attracted to some people but not other people?
- What determines how our intimate relationships evolve over time?
- What does it mean to love someone and what problems are likely to arise along the way
Need to belong
- A basic human motive
- We as people care what others think of us
- People who have close social ties tend to be: happier, healthier, and more satisfied with life
Thrill of Affiliation
- There is a need for affiliation.
- A desire to make and keep interpersonal relationships
- People differ in the strength of their need for affiliation
- Stress makes the need for affiliation more needed
- Being alone and feeling lonely
- This motivates people of all
The Agony of Loneliness
- People seek out the company of others (even strangers) in times of stress
- Loneliness: a feeling of deprivation about existing social relations (Kassin, S., Fein, S., & Markus, H. R. (2021). Social Psychology (11th ed.). Cengage.)
- Being shy DOES contribute to social isolation
- There are many different ways to cope with being lonely
- Three factors of loneliness
- Intimate, relational, and collective
Initial attraction
- We are attracted to others with whom a relationship is directly or indirectly rewarding.
- All humans exhibit patterns of attraction and mate selection that favor the conception, birth, and survival of their offspring.
- The way that people meet has transformed in an explosive way as a result of online dating services such as Match.