Proximity
Geographic nearness encourages friendship (e.g., same entrances, recreation areas).
Random roommates in college often become friends due to frequent interactions (Newcomb, 1961).
Anticipatory liking enhances feelings of attraction.
Example: If A hears positive things about B, A is more likely to want to meet and like B.
Physical Attractiveness
Women generally prefer warm, kind partners over just attractive ones (Bertrand Russell, 1930).
The principle of 'matching phenomenon' implies that partners tend to choose those with similar attractiveness levels.
Physical-Attractiveness Stereotype (PAS): Tendency to associate physical attractiveness with positive personality traits, such as intelligence and kindness. People deemed attractive often receive preferential treatment and higher social status, impacting social interactions.
Similarity
Shared attitudes and values strengthen bonds of friendship.
Complementarity can evolve over time but similar personalities are often more attractive.
Feeling Liked
Liking is typically mutual; if someone is informed that others admire them, they often reciprocate those feelings.
Critiques hold more weight than praise; people sensitive to negative feedback may struggle with self-esteem issues.
Mere-exposure effect: Repeated exposure to someone typically makes them more likable.
Familiarity breeds liking and perceived goodness.
Beauty often follows cultural standards, yet average-looking individuals with a good personality may be rated higher in long-term attractiveness.
Physical attractiveness signals biological health, youth, and fertility.
Love integrates emotions, cognition, and close relationships (Baron & Byrne, 2007).
“Someone cannot love without being attracted” but implies that attraction can encompass more than just physical attraction.
Reward Theory of Attraction: This theory posits that people are drawn to others who provide them with rewards, whether those are emotional support, companionship, or physical pleasure, thereby enhancing their overall satisfaction in relationships.
Sternberg’s Triangular Model of Love:
1. Intimacy
2. Passion
3. Commitment
Types of love styles:
Eros: Passionate love. (Intense emotions)
Storge: Companionate love.
Ludus: Game-playing love. (emotion is often more casual and playfu)
Mania: Possessive love.
Pragma: Logical love.
This type of love may prioritize stability and mutual advantages in the relationship, focusing on long-term success.
Agape: Selfless love.
Characterized by unconditional care, concern, and commitment to another person's well-being. Often exemplified by parental love.
Attachment Styles
Secure: Trust and intimacy.
Preoccupied: Anxiety and possessiveness.
Dismissive: Distrust of others.
Fearful: Fear of rejection.
Equity
Balance in outcomes versus contributions in relationships.
Self-Disclosure
The process of revealing personal, intimate aspects of oneself.
Previously, gender roles influenced openness; today, this is changing towards mutual disclosure.
Divorce Factors
Indicators for lasting marriage:
Married after age 20
Stable childhood environments
Long courting periods
Education levels aligned
Good job stability
Small town living
Religious commitment
Detachment Process
Refers to the various ways individuals respond to relationship challenges leading to potential end
Passive Responses: Loyalty in hopes of improvement.
Active Responses: Seeking to resolve issues through discussion or exiting the relationship.
Love grows by sharing; personal fulfillment comes from community connection. - Brian Tracy