we communicate from birth, think of how babies communicate, even before they can actually talk
noise is anything that disrupts a message being sent, received, or understood
e.g. Dr. Duke had an online class where she called on a student to answer a question, and she said she honestly didn’t know bc she was in the car. So Dr. Duke was annoyed.
Then, she called on another student, they said they were in that same car, but they were otw to the hospital bc their baby is sick and needs to go to the ER
then, Dr. Duke was less annoyed bc that info changed the way the situation seemed. So it wasn’t for nothing.
Their noise was the stress of being in the car, worrying about the baby
Dr. Duke’s stress was the typical stereotype of why people don’t know an answer or are distracted, clouding her initial judgement on the students
noise can be feelings, perceptions, literal sounds, etc.
it is anything that is a barrier to the message being sent or changed from its original meaning
the setting can get rid of noise, or create more noise
do you like a lot of personal or mental space, or you’re ok being close to him?
the way you dress, what accessories do you wear?
text on shirts
imagine shaking someone hard, or vs. lightly tapping their shoulder
how you hug a male friend vs. a boyfriend
affection with a co-worker vs. your mom
how words can be used in different ways than they actually mean
onomatopoeia
tone of voice
can mean many different things
discomfort
disbelief
paying attention
very, very upset
wanting power
punctuality
can make something feel like more or less of a priority
quality time/amount of time spent together when together/how often you talk
timing of responses
bad smells are not good, good smells are good
Can show you do or don’t care
can make you seem irresponsible, lazy, or unprofessional e.g. for work
not put together if smelly
imagine if your food smells really good or really bad
fresh smell of a small town vs. weird smells in big city
shows how bad smells are also not always bad
or, a food you like that is pungent or other people think stinks
I-Messages
The ones on slide 8 are not very good, go to slide 9, practice changing them on slide 10changing