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Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior

Introduction

• Ebook Overview: This ebook by Robyn Gobbel aims to help parents understand and support children with baffling behaviors by focusing on the nervous system.

About the Author

• Robyn Gobbel: Therapist turned speaker and writer with over 15 years of clinical practice.

• Noted for combining relational neurosciences and attachment theory with practical strategies for behavior.

• Adapts complex neurobiological concepts for parents, teachers, and therapists in an accessible format.

Table of Contents

• What to Expect:

  • Introduction to behavior and the paradigm shift in understanding.

  • Insights on the brain's role in behavior.

  • Concepts of felt safety, connection, and regulation.

  • Strategies for changing behavior rooted in neuroscience.

The Role of the Brain in Behavior

Understanding Behavior

• Behavior as Reflection: Behaviors are indicative of underlying neurological states.

• Felt Safety: Core to understanding behavior strategies; subjective experience unique to each child.

Two Modes of the Brain

• Connection Mode: Open to relationships, cooperative behaviors emerge.

• Protection Mode: Triggered by perceived danger; leads to defensive reactions and behavioral disruptions.

Why a Paradigm Shift?

• Shifting perspectives on behavior offers new strategies and understanding.

• Relational Neurosciences: This emerging field merges insights from interpersonal neurobiology and trauma-informed care to better understand and address behaviors.

• Understanding the root causes of behavior: Finding underlying issues rather than just managing symptoms.

• Neuroceptive awareness: Children assess safety and danger through internal and external cues constantly.

Regulation, Connection, and Felt Safety

Felt Safety

• Described by Dr. Alan Sroufe as a subjective experience influenced by environment, relationship, and internal state.

• Neuroception: Process of assessing safety from the environment and interpersonal relations.

Connection

• Defined as a biological imperative by Dr. Stephen Porges; essential for survival and brain development.

• Connection fosters healthy brain development through co-regulation among caregivers and children.

Regulation

• Refers to managing energy and arousal levels in the nervous system.

• Involves a balance between sympathetic (accelerator) and parasympathetic (brake) responses.

Moving Towards Change

• Focus on Regulation: Enhance a child’s ability to stay within their window of tolerance.

• Change how we view behavior: Misbehaviors can reflect a lack of regulation or connection rather than intentional defiance.

• Importance of co-regulation: Caregivers' regulated states are critical to supporting children.

Behavior Management Strategies

• Traditional behavior modification techniques (punishments, rewards) often fail because they do not address underlying issues.

• Effective strategies focus on increasing felt safety, connection, and regulation.

• Punishments can undermine a child's sense of safety and self-efficacy when behaviors emerge from a Protection Mode brain.

The Impact of Trauma and Toxic Stress

• Trauma's Effects: Impairs state regulation, causing unpredictable behavior and exaggerated responses to normal stressors.

• Trauma and toxic stress lead brains to remain in a state of danger, interpreting neutral stimuli as threats.

• Cycle of Connection and Threat: Children may crave connection yet perceive it as dangerous due to past experiences involved in trauma.

Conclusion

• Shifting Perspectives: Simply changing how we view behaviors can lead to transformative outcomes.

• Action Steps: Increase opportunities for connection, regulation, and education around behavior to foster healthier interactions.

• Resources and Community: Participation in support networks (like The Club) aids in addressing challenges together, offering shared wisdom and guidance aligned with the principles of relational neurosciences.

Additional Resources

• Books and Podcasts: Gobbel offers further insights through additional resources, linking readers to community support and deeper understanding of behavior.