Stephanie Coontz's book, The Way We Never Were: American Families and the Nostalgia Trap, provides an overview of family life in the United States, particularly concerning the perceived “crisis of the family.”
Americans tend to have an idealized sense of the family, but history reveals a different reality of what the family was and did.
Family structure and roles have been fluid throughout history, and current changes are an extension of this fluid nature.
Family: Two or more people related by blood, marriage, or adoption.
The concept of family exists in all societies.
A couple without children can still be considered a family.
Marriage: The formal union of two people, typically recognized by law.
Nuclear Family: A household consisting of a husband, wife, and children.
Extended Family: A household consisting of a nuclear family plus additional relatives (e.g., grandparents, aunts, uncles).
Monogamy: The practice of being married to one person at a time.
Polygamy: The practice of having more than one spouse at a time. Illegal in the United States.
Polygyny: A man marrying two or more women. Illegal in most developed countries.
Polyandry: A woman marrying two or more men. This form of marriage limits the number of births.
Median age at first marriage:
1900: Men - 25.9, Women - 21.9
1950s: Men - 22.8, Women - 20.3
2009: Men - 28.1, Women - 25.9 (an all-time high)
Reasons for recent trends:
More couples live together without marriage.
More cohabitating couples have children.
Estimated that 40% of children will spend time in a cohabitating couple before they turn 16.
Remarriage and stepfamilies are becoming more common.
Blended Families: Families composed of children and some combination of biological parents.
The birthrate for single-parent families has increased in the last 35 years.
Single-parent families result from cohabitation, divorce, or women having children outside of marriage.
Society has become more accepting of unmarried women raising children.
Almost half of children today are expected to live in single-parent homes at some time before they are 21.
The Universal Nuclear Family: Families vary in organization, membership, life cycle, social networks, and function. The