KNOWING ONESELF - MODULE 1

Self Concept

• how someone thinks about, evaluates, or perceives themselves

• being aware of oneself

• The individuals belief about himself or herself, including the person attributes and how and what the self is"(Baumeister,1999)

• Self concept has three(3) different components:

  • view you have of yourself(self-image)

    • does not necessarily have to be a realistic view of yourself

    • can differ due to a lot fo factors like parental influences, friends, etc.

    • e.g. people with anorexia think their fat but other people thinks that their thin

  • Ideal Self(what you’d like to be)

  • Self-esteem(extent to which you value yourself)

    • extent which we accept, or approve of ourselves or how much we value ourselves

    • we can have a positive view or negative view of ourselves

4 Major factors the influence Self-Esteem

• The Reaction of Others

  • if they interact with us, admire us, flatter us, we tend to develop a positive self image, and when people will ignore you and avoid you, you’ll develop negative self-esteem

• Comparison with Others

  • if people in our circle tend to be more successful in life, we’d feel more negative self-esteem, but if people are less successful then you, you’d gain positive self-esteem

• Social Roles

  • can carry prestige- being a doctor or pilot can bring positive self-esteem since people will look at you highly

  • can carry stigma(–mark of disgrace associated with a particular circumstance)- prisoner, mental patient or unemployed person can bring negative self-esteem

  • e.g. even though you’re an ex criminal, people will still look at you lowly(still an ex criminal) since you became a criminal

• Identification(interrelated with social roles)

  • the roles we taken in also become a part of our personality

  • depending on our role as a person, we can feel good/bad about ourselves

  • e.g. you feel good if your friends with a celebrity, but you won’t feel good about yourself when you have a dad that came from prison

EFFECTIVE FEEDBACK

• feedback is information(verbal, nonverbal, written)

• given to individuals or groups

• purpose is to know how they affect others and how they’re perceived

• e.g. you feel like your product is the best, but your teachers don’t think so, so they have to give you feedback to help you improve

  • they don’t wish to hurt you i any way, they just wish to help you

Effective Feedback Goals:

• self-awareness

• Improvement of relationship

• personal growth

Feedback is not:

• to unload/labas sama loob

• to hurt

  hit back or take revenge

• overwhelm

Effective feedback Formula:

• Mention Situation +

• Specific Behavior +

• Effect on me and/or task and/or on relationship

• TAKE NOTE: Effective feedback is giving perceptions non threateningly so that they will be received non defensively