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Definition of Leadership 

• Leadership is influence, it is the ability to get followers

Difference Between Vocation and Occupation

• Occupation is what I am doing, vocation is what I am called to do 

• Call vs Career

Common masks that leaders wear

• Perfection 

• Busy-ness

• Strength 

• Pleasing others 

• Being in control 

6 Stages of Power 

• Stage 1 - Powerlessness “Manipulation”

• Manipulative 

  • By other and of others

Characteristics

• Sense of being trapped 

• Low self esteem 

• Dependent 

• Helpless

• Very fearful 

Ways to move to stage 2 

• Develop skills 

• Increase the number of supportive, nourishing people in your life 

• Confront fears, confront yourself 

• Get out of abusive relationships 

• Change jobs 

Stage 2 - Power by association 

Characteristics

• Learning the culture 

• depedent on the supervisor 

• Stuck but moving 

What holds people back?

• Lack of confidence 

• Need for security 

What moves people forward?

• Confidence 

• Risk-taking

Stage 3 - Power by Symbols 

• Exciting 

• Challenging 

• Outwardly Rewarding 

• Competitive 

Characteristics

• Most masculine of all stages 

• Ego-centric 

• Expert 

Power plays 

• “Nobody upstairs”

• “You owe me”

• “Yougottobekidding”

What holds people back 

• Not knowing theyre stuck 

• Confusion 

Ways to move

• Learn to be alone and to do some serious self-reflections 

Stage 4 Power by Reflection “Influence”

• Oprah Winfrey 

• Used her influence to pull strings to her advantage 

• No longer want to play by the rules 

• Have a reputation for honesty, sound judgement, and integrity 

• Known for being natural leaders 

Characteristics 

• Strong and competent 

• Reflective 

• Comfortable with personal style 

• Skilled at mentoring 

What holds people back?

• Letting go of one’s ego 

Ways to move

• Forgive others

• Experience losses 

• Long silent times

Stage 5 - Power by Purpose “Vision”

• A life purpose that extends beyond ___.

• A strong vision

• Gives away power, can be unnoticed

• Live from the inside, not the outside 

• The irregulars 

Characteristics 

• Self accepting 

• Visionary 

• Confident of life purpose 

• Generous in empowering others

• Spiritual 

What holds people back?

• Lack of faith 

• Too much to lose 

Ways to move 

• In individual ways 

• Sacrifice 

Stage 6 - Power by Gestalt “Wisdom” 

• The whole of something is greater than the sum of its parts 

• Sees the whole picture 

  • Not always including them 

• Long periods of solitude 

• Somewhat detached but accessible 

• Fearless, especially when it comes to death 

Characteristics 

• Comfortable with paradox

• Powerless 

• Ethical 

• Operate on a universal plane

Maslow’s Higherarchy of needs 

• Self Actualization 

  • Desires to become the most one can be 

• Esteem 

  • Respect, self esteems, status, recognition, strength, freedom 

• Love and belonging

  • Friendship, intimacy, family 

• Safety needs

  • Personal security, employment, resources, health, property 

• Physiological needs

  • Air, water, food, shelter, sleep, clothing, reproduction 

Levels of Leadership 

• Position

  • Rights - people follow you because they have to 

• Permission

  • Relationships - people follow you because they want to 

• Production 

  • Results - people follow you because of what you have done for the organization 

• Personnel Development 

  • Reproduction - people follow you because of what you have done for them 

• Personhood

  • Respect - People follow you because of who you are and what you represent

Dark Side Cycle

1. Basic needs exist and are realized 

2. Traumatic experience that threatens certain needs or leaves us with unmet needs creates a “missing block” 

3. Existential Debt - the feeling that our unmet need is the result of personal failure, which creates an emotional debt that we attempt to pay often through unhealthy behaviors 

4. Dark side development - the combined effects of these needs, traumatic experiences, and emotional debts result in the ongoing development of the dark side 

Dark Sides of Leadership 

• Compulsive Leader

  • Rash decision making 

  • Likes control 

• Narcissistic leader 

  • Seeking to have their agenda pushed 

  • Wants to achieve their personal goals over anything else 

• Paranoid leader 

  • Paranoid leaders are suspicious of their subordinates

• Codependent leader 

  • They lean on other people in an unhealthy way 

  • Fear of losing relationships results in bad decisions 

  • Starts in childhood, ends with lying and bad decisions 

• Passive-aggressive leader

  • Pessimist 

  • Subordinates avoid this leader at all costs 

  • Disagreeable 

Steps to Redeeming the Dark Side 

• Acknowledge your dark side 

• Practice Spiritual composting 

• Examine the past 

• Resist the poison of expectations 

• Practice progressive self-knowledge

• Understand you identity in Christ 

Definition and Purpose of Margin 

• Power - Load = Margin.

• Margin is necessary so we don’t burn out

Areas of our lives that margin is needed and why

• Emotional energy

  • We are unable to “attack the day” when emotionally drained 

• Physical energy 

  • We are unable to perform at a high level or grow when depleted physically 

• Time 

  • With no time, there is no ability to maintain relationships, or heal from any other area 

• Finances 

  • Obviously, with no financial margin comes stress 

Areas of Pain within Margin 

• Progress

• Problems 

• Stress 

• Overload 

DISC Key Descriptions, Issues, Needs, De-stressors

D

Descriptions 

• Dominant, demanding, decisive

Issues

• Opinionated, impatient, proud, offensive 

Needs

• Challenge, vision, goal, objectives

De-stressors

• Physical exercise 

I

Descriptions

• Inspiring, interested, impressionable, involved

Issues

• Undependable, undisciplined, exaggerating 

Needs

• People, good relationships, reminders to stay on track 

De-stressors

• People/play time, social activity 

S

Descriptions

• Sentimental, serving, sweet, shy 

Issues

• Unmovable, inflexible, resentful, manipulated 

Needs

• Good leadership, affirmation, appreciation

De-Stressor

• Undirected, unstructured activity 

C

Descriptions

• Complex, conscientious, contemplative, calculating

Issues

• Picky, head rules heart, unsociable 

Needs 

• Strategy, appreciation 

De-stressor

• Cognitive activity 

4 C’s of Leadership 

Commitment 

• Committed to Jesus

Conviction

• Following Jesus 

• WWJD

• Integrity 

Competency 

• Knows what they are talking about 

• Confident in what they do 

Character 

• Looking more like Jesus 

• Choices reflect values