ROBERT STERNBERG

ROBERT STERNBERG

  • Born in New Jersey on December 9, 1949

  • Age: 74 years old 

  • American psychometrician and psychologist known for his theories on love, intelligence, and creativity.

  • Professor of Psychology in the College of Human Ecology at Cornell University and Honorary Professor of Psychology at Heidelberg University, Germany.

  • Sternberg served as President of the American

  • Psychological Association in 2003.


TRIANGULAR THEORY OF LOVE COMPONENTS 

INTIMACY 

  • Emotional closeness, connection, and bond between partners


PASSION

  • Physical attraction and romantic or sexual desire in the relationship


DECISION/COMMITMENT 

  • Decision to stay together and maintain the relationship long-term.


STERNBERG’S TYPES OF LOVE

Friendship or Liking

Component: Intimacy

Involves deep liking and emotional

closeness, but lacks passion and

romantic commitment. Typical in

close friendships. 

Infatuation

Component: Passion

Intense physical attraction without

intimacy or commitment. It’s often

short-lived and can evolve into

other forms of love over time.

Empty Love 


Component: Commitment 

Commitment exists, but passion

and intimacy is missing. This

may occur in long-term

relationships where the emotional

connection fades

Romantic Love


Components: Intimacy + Passion 

A deep emotional and physical bond, but without long-term commitment. Couples may enjoy affection and connection without solidifying future plans.

Companionate Love


Components: Intimacy + Commitment 

A strong emotional connection with

commitment but no passion. Common in long-term marriages where the romantic spark has faded but the bond remains.

Fatuous Love

Components: Passion + Commitment

Passion drives commitment, but

there is little emotional closeness.

Often seen in whirlwind

romances, it lacks the stability of

intimacy.

Consummate Love


Components: Intimacy + Passion + Commitment 

The ideal form of love, combining deep emotional connection,

physical passion, and strong commitment. Couples are deeply connected on all levels. Theory suggests that the most fulfilling relationships combine all three components in a balanced way, but the balance can shift over time as relationships evolve.


TRIANGULAR THEORY OF LOVE


RELEVANCE

  • In this day and age, love has changed and formed into many different types, this is why Sternberg’s theory gave us an insight on types of love and how it can be perceived differently. 

  • From infatuation to consummate, all these types of love and Sternberg’s classifications of them help us navigate through life and find out how we are loved or how we love other people, not knowing can cause confusion and distress in the whole relationship.

  • Sternberg’s theory helps us to understand it clearly, especially now, where we can connect so easily through online chat rooms, calls, or even just meeting up, It is the time of the internet, and meeting new friends and others are just a tap away.