The Way of the Superior Man – Key Vocabulary

INTRODUCTION

• Target Audience & Definition
  • Newly evolving man: purposeful, confident, directed and sensitive, spontaneous, spiritually alive.
  • Not a macho jerk (all spine, no heart) nor a spineless new-age wimp (all heart, no spine).
• Core Commitments
  • Incarnate love through work & sexuality.
  • Live from deepest truth; give gifts fearlessly.
• Sexual Polarity Concepts
  • Passion = flow between masculine & feminine poles (analogous to $+/-$ electrical poles).
  • ~90 % of people have clear masculine or feminine essence; ~10 % balanced.
  • Diminished polarity ⇒ neutral relationships, fizzled passion.
  • Essence priority: masculine → freedom/mission; feminine → love/connection.
• Three Stages of Growth
  1. Traditional domination/submission (macho jerk & submissive housewife).
  2. 50/50 equality (androgynous sameness) → social gains but sexual neutrality.
  3. Celebrated polarity plus equality: union of heart & spine (the Superior Man’s way).
• Book’s Language Choice
  • Written to heterosexual man w/ masculine essence; principles apply by adjusting pronouns.

PART ONE – A MAN’S WAY (Chapters 1-15)

Ch 1 Stop Hoping for Completion

• Life never “gets handled.”
• Minimum 1 hr/day doing deepest-heart activity now.
• Practice love instead of fixing woman’s chaos.

Ch 2 Live with an Open Heart — Even If It Hurts

• Closure = self-betrayal; superior man breathes, relaxes front of body, keeps eye contact under pain.

Ch 3 Live as If Your Father Were Dead

• Love father yet release inner critic/expector.
• 3-day practice: daily action previously squelched by father’s influence.

Ch 4 Know Your Real Edge and Don’t Fake It

• Fear is guide; play just beyond edge (neither lazy nor macho).
• Honesty of edge makes you trustable.

Ch 5 Always Hold to Your Deepest Realization

• Eternity as home base; anchor actions in unchanging source.
• Daily immersion (books, meditation, teachers).

Ch 6 Never Change Your Mind Just to Please a Woman

• Listen, then decide from core; otherwise authenticity & trust erode.

Ch 7 Purpose Before Relationship

• Admit you’d choose mission over perfect intimacy.
• Give undivided 30-min blocks rather than hours of half-presence.

Ch 8 Lean Just Beyond Your Edge

• Fear-spot = growth-spot.
• Stay “right over the edge”—raw, awake, humble.

Ch 9 Do It for Love

• Ravish world & woman as love, not for personal gain.
• Two paths: renounce or “fuck to smithereens” while staying free.

Ch 10 Enjoy Your Friends’ Criticism

• Weekly men-circle: state edge → receive behavioral experiment.
• Good friends won’t tolerate mediocrity.

Ch 11 If You Don’t Know Your Purpose — Discover It NOW

• Without it ⇒ weak, impotent (even sexually).
• Align diet, career, intimacy around deepest desire.

Ch 12 Be Willing to Change Everything

• Life purposes are concentric layers; complete → feels empty.
• Signs layer is complete: no interest, no regret, energy surge.

Ch 13 Don’t Use Your Family as an Excuse

• Domestic duty ≠ abandon purpose; kids feel father’s divided core.

Ch 14 Don’t Get Lost in Tasks & Duties

• Refresh transcendental element daily.
• Interrupt schedule with death-reflection, meditation, loving openness.

Ch 15 Stop Hoping for Your Woman to Get Easier

• Testing never ends; she probes strength of your love.
• Most erotic moment for her: you as imperturbable Shiva.

PART TWO – DEALING WITH WOMEN (Ch 16-22)

Ch 16 Women Are Not Liars

• Feminine speech = emotional “weather report,” not literal agenda.
• Base decisions on deepest truth, not transient words.

Ch 17 Praise Her

• Feminine grows by praise; notice & verbalize specific beauty/acts 5-10× daily.

Ch 18 Tolerating Her ⇒ Resenting Her

• Serve her mood into love (humor, touch, wrestling) instead of tolerating.

Ch 19 Don’t Analyze Your Woman

• 90 % of her emotional problems = feeling unloved. Offer bodily love, not analysis.

Ch 20 Don’t Suggest She Fix Her Own Emotions

• Feminine problem-solving = surrender to love, not analysis.

Ch 21 Stay With Her Intensity — To a Point

• Meet storm with presence; learn from failure; fear or mastery are options.

Ch 22 Don’t Force the Feminine to Make Decisions

• Give masculine clarity; prevents depolarization.

PART THREE – WORKING WITH POLARITY & ENERGY (Ch 23-28)

Ch 23 Attraction to Feminine Is Inevitable

• Healthy; convert “zing” into body-wide nourishment, not pursuit.

Ch 24 Choose a Complimentarily Opposite Woman

• More masculine man ⇒ likely attracted to wild/chaotic feminine.
• Accept whole package: radiance & complexity.

Ch 25 Know What’s Important in Your Woman

• Prioritize spiritual awakening + sexual polarity above business/friend roles.

Ch 26 You Will Often Want More Than One Woman

• Desire is natural; acting on it must serve highest purpose, not comfort.

Ch 27 Young Women Offer Special Energy

• Youthful radiance = enlivening; receive non-sexually via breath, presence.

Ch 28 Each Woman Has a Temperature

• “Hot” vs “Cool” feminine energy; seek balance relative to your current life stress.

PART FOUR – WHAT WOMEN REALLY WANT (Ch 29-34)

Ch 29 Choose a Woman Who Chooses You

• Neediness destroys polarity; if she doesn’t want you, move on.

Ch 30 What She Wants Is NOT What She Says

• She tests resolve; fulfill deepest love/direction, not surface requests.

Ch 31 Her Complaint Is Content-Free

• Hear complaints as feedback to re-align life/purpose, not literal problems.

Ch 32 She Doesn’t Really Want to Be #1

• She relaxes when you serve truth/mission beyond relationship.

Ch 33 Your Track Record Is Meaningless

• Feminine lives in the NOW; one 30-sec lapse erases 10 yrs of perfection.

Ch 34 She Wants to Relax in Demonstration of Your Direction

• Provide trustable vision (financial, spiritual); then she can surrender into radiance.

PART FIVE – YOUR DARK SIDE (Ch 35-38)

Ch 35 Always Searching for Freedom

• Masculine ecstasy = release from constraint (sports, war, ego-death).

Ch 36 Own Your Darkest Desires

• Transform ravishment fantasies into heart-rooted passion; fearlessly love through taboos.

Ch 37 She Wants the “Killer” in You

• Capacity to face death (& cockroaches) builds trust; violence + love = integrity.

Ch 38 She Needs Your Consciousness to Match Her Energy

• Meet dark/light feminine with equivalent depth; shortcomings become her test points.

PART SIX – FEMININE ATTRACTIVENESS (Ch 39-43)

Ch 39 Feminine Is Abundant

• Lack-mentality = resistance; breathe/savor omnipresent feminine energy.

Ch 40 Allow Older Women Their Magic

• Deep radiance blossoms with age; don’t reduce to youth-centric lust.

Ch 41 Turn Lust into Gifts

• Circulate arousal; inhale her essence → exhale service to world.

Ch 42 Never Allow Desire to Become Suppressed/Depolarized

• Familiarity breeds neutralization; revitalize polarity or relationship/world suffers.

Ch 43 Use Her Attractiveness as Slingshot Through Appearance

• Feel through beauty into source; appearance → revelation, not obsession.

PART SEVEN – BODY PRACTICES (Ch 44-46)

Ch 44 Ejaculation Should Be Converted or Consciously Chosen

• Frequent release ⇒ depletion ⇒ mediocre life.
• Convert to whole-body orgasm; woman trusts non-draining lover.

Ch 45 Breathe Down the Front

• Chronic tension along front centerline blocks presence.
• Practice deep circular breathing: inhale $\downarrow$ front to genitals, exhale $\uparrow$ spine.

Ch 46 Ejaculate Up the Spine

• Pelvic-floor contractions + breath lift orgasm energy upwards.
• Five key steps:
  1. Abandon fantasy; stay present.
  2. Relax body/breath; open belly & heart.
  3. Feel through partner beyond sensation.
  4. Continuous front-down / spine-up breathing.
  5. Contract & draw pelvic floor upward at climax, shooting energy up to brain.

PART EIGHT – MEN’S & WOMEN’S YOGA OF INTIMACY (Ch 47-51)

Ch 47 Account for Primary Asymmetry

• Man’s priority → mission; Woman’s priority → love flow.
• Support each other’s core needs.

Ch 48 You Are Responsible for Growth in Intimacy

• Man: guide relationship depth; Woman: nourish vitality/energy.
• Cut through bullshit with love and humor.

Ch 49 Insist on Practice & Growth

• Offer no-compromise direction toward mutual evolution (“divine way or highway”).

Ch 50 Restore Purpose in Solitude & with Men

• Masculine recharge: austerity & challenge; regular men’s circles.
• Feminine recharge: communal celebration with women.

Ch 51 Practice Dissolving

• Moment-to-moment surrender into love; embrace fear, die into giving.

RECURRING EXERCISES & PRACTICES (Quick List)

• Daily 1 hr deepest-heart activity.
• Weekly men’s critique circle & behavioral experiment.
• 3-day “father-dead” actions.
• Edge-leaning in career & intimacy.
• Praise partner 5-10× per day.
• Breath-circle meditation (front ↓ / spine ↑) multiple times daily.
• Pelvic-floor training sets (15-20 reps, 3-4×/day).
• Regular solitary retreats & no-comfort austerity periods.
• Arrange women-only playtime for partner; arrange men-only challenge time for self.

ETHICAL & PRACTICAL IMPLICATIONS

• Equality plus polarity: social fairness doesn’t negate sexual differentiation.
• Suppressing essence causes psychosomatic illness & relational stagnation.
• Mastery of body/sexuality = mastery of spiritual gifting.
• Relationship serves global benefit: liberated gifts → “countless multitudes may benefit.”

QUICK REFERENCE EQUATIONS (Metaphoric)

• Passion ≈ $f(\text{Masculine},\text{Feminine})$ polarity.
• Fear Edge → Growth : $\text{Lean} = \text{Edge} + \varepsilon$ beyond comfort.
• Ejaculatory Loss ⟺ Energy $\downarrow$ → Purpose $\downarrow$.
• Praise $\uparrow$ ⇒ Feminine Radiance $\uparrow$.
• Mission Clarity $\rightarrow$ Trust $\rightarrow$ Intimacy Depth.