2Q PERDEV WEEK 2 MODULE 2

Personal Relationships and Development

Overview

  • Lesson 2 focuses on personal relationships and development in a collaborative educational context.

Inspirational Quote

  • “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” - Lao Tzu

Questions to Reflect On

  • When can you say you love someone?

  • When does love become a source of strength? Courage?

  • Who or what will you fight for love?

Attraction

Definition of Attraction

  • Attraction is the action or power of evoking interest, pleasure, or liking for someone or something.

  • Attractiveness evokes interest, liking, or desire.

Positive Connections

  • Attraction promotes positive connections between people based on shared interests, likes/dislikes, and desires.

Interpersonal Attraction

  • Interpersonal attraction refers to a positive attitude or evaluation towards another person based on various components.

Key Components of Attraction

  • Several key factors contribute to attraction, including:

    • Physical Attractiveness: Visual appeal influences initial attraction.

    • Similarity: People categorize others based on existing knowledge, linking similarities in characteristics such as age and social status.

    • Proximity: Physical distance and frequency of interaction affect attraction.

    • Reciprocity: Mutual feelings of attraction enhance the bond.

Physical Attractiveness

  • Visually oriented, people tend to rely on looks as a first impression. Young children prefer attractive faces (Langlois et al. 1991).

Similarity and Social Categorization

  • People group others based on shared characteristics like personality, attitude, and educational background.

Proximity

  • Physical distance relates to functional distance, emphasizing how often individuals communicate.

Reciprocity in Relationships

  • Mutual feelings and reciprocal expressions of affection strengthen relationships.

Definitions of Love

Dictionary Definitions

  1. (a) Strong affection arising from personal ties.(b) Attraction based on sexual desire; affection felt by lovers.(c) Affection based on admiration and common interests.

  2. Assurance of affection.

Neurochemical Perspective

  • According to Sue Carter and Stephen Porges, love integrates a complex neurochemical system aiding adaptation in emotional contexts.

Feel-good Hormones

  • Oxytocin: Promotes social interaction and builds trust.

  • Serotonin: Stabilizes mood and promotes well-being.

  • Endorphin: Acts as the body's natural painkiller, reducing stress.

  • Dopamine: Associated with feelings of happiness, motivation, and pleasure.

  • Vasopressin: Promotes stable, long-term relationships through social engagement.

Recap of Relationship Components

  • Intimacy: Closeness, caring, emotional support.

  • Passion: Physical attraction and emotional arousal.

  • Commitment: The decision to maintain a relationship (Brannan & Mohr, 2020).

Triangular Model of Love (Sternberg)

  • Liking: Intimacy alone.

  • Romantic Love: Intimacy + Passion.

  • Companionate Love: Intimacy + Commitment.

  • Consummate Love: Intimacy + Passion + Commitment.

  • Infatuation: Passion alone.

  • Empty Love: Commitment alone.

  • Fatuous Love: Passion + Commitment.

Relationship Quality

  • Quality is defined by how partners relate; attachment styles affect interactions in various relationships (Eastwick & Finkel, 2008).

Attachment Styles

  • Secure Attachment: Healthy relationship with supportive, communicative parents.

  • Anxious/Ambivalent Attachment: Dependence on parents for affection often leads to feelings of lack.

  • Avoidant Attachment: Emotional distance from parents due to negative experiences.

Commitment in Relationships

  • Defined as a long-term connection involving mutual support and coordination (Wegner et al., 1991).

  • Commitment necessitates ongoing collaboration to maintain the relationship (Jhangiani and Tarry).

Tips for Healthy Relationships

  • Stay happy.

  • Be empathic.

  • Maintain open communication.

  • Trust one another.

  • Show respect.

  • Lend a helping hand.

Quiz Section

  1. Identify the love type comprising intimacy, passion, and commitment.

  2. Name the proposer of the Triangular Model of Love.

  3. Determine the elements promoting physiological changes in attraction.

  4. Classify the attachment style associated with proper parental affection.

  5. Describe Oxytocin's contribution to relationship building.

Love and Attraction Inquiry

  • Conduct interviews with ten individuals regarding perspectives of love and attraction and compare historical expressions of love.