Responding to Violence and Abuse

staying safe section 1
- feeling safe
- lets us live good productive and healthy lives
- important for feeling good overall
- objectives
- find ways to stay safe at home and in your town
- learn what makes people act violently
- figure out how to stop fights and violence
- feeling safe means
- you dont feel like youre going to get hurt
- youre not scared of getting hurt
- staying safe means
- doing things to keep yourself safe
- these actions can be things you just do or things you learn
- things you just do
- not touching hot things like fire
- things you learn
- looking both ways before crossing the street
- not talking to strangers
- staying safe is about
- doing things you just do and things you learn
- staying safe at home and in your town
- knowing how to protect yourself

### home safety

use locks
- make sure all doors are locked especially when youre home alone
answering the door
- be careful when you answer
- dont open the door all the way
- dont let strangers in
- look through the peephole if you dont know them dont open the door
never give out personal info
- especially when youre not going to be home
- dont tell people when youre home or when youre not
- dont say things that make you a target like im home alone
dont say youre alone
- not online or in messages
make it sound like someone is home
- leave lights on play music even when youre not there

### community safety

stay in safe places
- go where its well lit so you can see and hear whats coming
walk like youre confident
- people who want to hurt others look for people who seem unsure
- stand up straight
- look where youre going and walk fast
keep your stuff safe
- hold your bag close
- keep your wallet in your front pocket
- pay attention to your stuff
go with a friend
- watch out for each other
- youre less likely to be bothered

### self-defense

act confident
- look like you can handle yourself
- be confident and say what you mean
- dont be mean but be strong
make good choices
- check your car before you get in
- turn on lights when you go into a dark room
protect yourself
- do things that make you feel safe
- make smart choices so you can protect yourself

causes of violent behavior section 2
- violence
- can be scary if you dont know why it happens
- its better to understand it
- objectives
- learn how to stay safe at home and in your town
- learn what makes people act violently
- find ways to stop fights and violence
- violence is
- a rough or hurtful act
- done by someone trying to hurt someone else
- violence can be
- physical mental or emotional
- hurting someone is using force to harm them
- examples are bullying hazing gang violence family violence assault and murder
- bullying
- trying to get attention or power especially when they feel weak
- hazing
- making new members do things that are emotionally mentally or physically abusive
- gang violence
- people who want the same things do things that hurt others to make their group stronger
- sometimes they break the law
- family violence
- violence between family members
- can be physical or verbal
- assault
- trying to hurt someone verbally or physically
- homicide
- killing someone on purpose

### what makes people violent

weapons
- people with weapons are more likely to be violent
media
- kids see lots of violence in tv shows and movies
- they might start to like characters who are violent
- like james bond who is a hero but also violent
alcohol and drugs
- make people lose control and make bad choices
mental or emotional problems
- can make people act out or be violent

### what violence costs

for the person hurt
- they need treatment for injuries
- they feel unsafe for a long time
- they feel bad about themselves
for the person who did the hurting
- they get fines or go to jail
- they lose their freedom and respect
- they miss out on chances in the future
for everyone
- we pay for police and doctors
- we pay for the courts
- we pay to keep everyone safe

### cool down

stopping violent behavior section 3
- objective
- figure out how to stop fights and violence
- stopping violence
- we cant stop all violence
- but we can make it less bad for us and others

### spotting danger signs

alcohol drugs or weapons
- people using these dont think clearly
hard time controlling anger or following rules
- they might act violently
obsessed with violence threats or hurting others
- stay away from them and keep your friends away too

### what to do when violence happens

leave when people are angry
- dont fight back just walk away
tell them how it makes you feel
- if youre close to them tell them you feel hurt sad or scared
keep a journal
- write down how you feel so you can learn from it
its not your fault
- you cant control others but you can control yourself
get help
- tell someone and stop the abuse
- stand up for yourself
- get a group of friends to help you
get away from the person hurting you
- dont stay with them
- they probably wont change
learn to protect yourself
- take classes on how to deal with violence
- its about staying safe and living to see another day
make safe choices
- dont do risky things
- stay away from people who get violent and places where violence happens
learn how to solve problems and protect yourself
- try talking to the person and stopping the abuse
tell someone about violence or threats
- tell a grown-up a police officer a teacher or a counselor
- get help from the police go to the hospital
- talk to people you trust local groups hotlines or shelters

### lesson summary

staying safe at home
- protect yourself and be safe
what makes people violent
- someone hurts someone else
- there are reasons and costs for violence
stopping fights and abuse
- watch