Self-concept: The picture or perception we have of ourselves.
Self-esteem: The feelings we have about ourselves.
Self-ideal: The way we would like to be.
What is Self-Esteem?
Self-esteem refers to the way we see and think about ourselves.
What's Self-Esteem Made Of?
Self-esteem is built from all the experiences and interpersonal relationships throughout life. Every person encountered contributes to or detracts from how we view ourselves.
Effects of High Self-Esteem
Characteristics of people with high self-esteem:
They like to meet new people.
They don’t worry about how others will judge them.
They have the courage to express themselves.
Their lives are enriched with each new encounter.
They are nicer to be around.
Their ideas are met with interest because others want to hear what they have to say.
They are magnets to positive opportunities!
They have an “I think I can” attitude.
Effects of Low Self-Esteem
Characteristics of people with low self-esteem:
They don’t believe in themselves.
They see themselves failing before they begin.
They have a hard time forgiving their mistakes and make themselves pay the price forever.
They believe they can never be as good as they should be or as others.
They are afraid to show their creativity because they will be ridiculed.
They are dissatisfied with their lives.
They spend most of their time alone.
They complain and criticize.
They worry about everything and do nothing.
They have an “I can’t do it” attitude.
12 Steps to High Self-Esteem
Forgive yourself for past mistakes.
Focus on your positive attributes.
Follow the example of successful people.
Become a self-talker.
Exhibit a good attitude.
Get plenty of rest.
Make your work skills your own.
Practice your talents.
Become physically fit.
Learn new things.
Improve your personal relationships.
Dress well!
Review of Self-Esteem
Self-esteem comes from every experience in life.
How you view yourself affects everything you do.
High self-esteem gives you a GOOD feeling about yourself.
Low self-esteem distorts your view of yourself.
Self-esteem can be improved!
Final Thought
Each individual is unique. No one else is like you in the whole world; this makes you special. Our time in this world is limited, so make it happen for you to leave your mark in history!
Self-Belief Percentage
Assess your level of self-belief as a percentage (e.g., 100%, 75%, 50%).
Consider what you are achieving with that percentage.
Imagine the potential impact of increasing your self-belief by an additional 25%.
Dreams and self-belief are free and unlimited.
Building and Destroying Self-Concept
Building:
Find a good role model.
Receive praise & compliments.
Focus on the positive.
Keep criticism to a minimum.
Set & achieve goals.
Destroying:
Comparing yourself to others.
Putting yourself down.
Drug abuse.
Tips for Building Self-Esteem
Identify with people, books, videos, television shows, etc., that build your self-esteem.
Build others – give sincere compliments often.
Think positively.
Set and achieve goals.
Do something challenging each day.
Look your best.
Eat correctly.
Do something for someone else.
Learn a new skill.
“Act as if” you possess traits you would like to have.
Observe self-concept people.
Handle things one at a time.
Use criticism constructively.
Ask for help – take advantage of learning opportunities.
Improve your personal living space.
Allow personal growth time each day.
Post self-improvement reminders in obvious places.
Do not say negative things about yourself.
Reward yourself often.
List your accomplishments each evening.
Volunteer to share your skills with others.
What You Become
You become what you think about most.
Good Self-Esteem Characteristics
Change the bad.
Appreciate life.
Willing to try new things.
Believes in self.
Is not a threat to others.
Doesn’t submit to peer pressure.
Accept failure.
Lead others.
Contributions to Self-Esteem
Consider who has contributed to your self-esteem.
Self-Concept Circle
The person I think I am.
The person others think I am.
The person others think I think I am.
As I see myself.
Other’s reactions to me.
As others see me.
My Actions.
Eleanor Roosevelt Quote
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
Self-Acceptance
Accept yourself: Stop worrying about the things you can’t change. Be more accepting of others and the things they can’t change. Try not to compare with others. It’s unfair. You may compare their strengths with your weaknesses. Judge yourself in terms of your own growth.
Realistic Expectations
Have Realistic Expectations – We expect too much from ourselves.
Perfection is not possible, but bettering ourselves should be a lifetime goal.
We grow with models who appear to be perfect at everything.
Heroes are good to look at, but they have their problems too.
Two Types of People
Two different Mindsets:
One that says "I wish I had".
The one that says "I’m glad I did".
Remember you can have anything in this world if you just believe in yourself.