Letter #86

30-January-1966

pp.359-366

the neigborhood found out abt TSU letters to his mom and found his letters amusing

the neighbor doesnt understand and kinda make fun of him and believed his mother never recieved the letters

But TSU still believed that his Mom does received

There is one who understand and that is Winyu the school teacher

Winyu say its a good outlet for his feelings eps abt stuff that this generation dont understand

Winyu understand that the Chinese take their responsibilities toward their parents and why he understand TSu writing and doesnt seem strange to him

TSU aksed back how thai feels abt their parents

Winyu say the same but they dont show their feelings in the same way. Thai parents let their son depends on them, The chinese and farang dont understand why the thai do that but the thai see dependence as a form of love. The chinese raise their son in the opposite way the one that one day must provide for them.

TSu ask does he think chinese are too hard on their children

Winyu say he dont think so but other thais might, and that he agreed with the chinese envouraging independence and that the parents wont be alive forever

TSU thinks Winyu is unusual

Winyu say Thais and Chinese will eventually intermarry

he also feel like TSu beleief of what thai men is unfair

He say that we Peaceful Thais have not been invaded by bombs or armies but they are invaded by progress

so far they havent been handling it so good but its changing, His generation is diff from his father in one important way : they are preparing themselves to deal with the world as it is and not as they think what it ought to be

and Winyu doesnt to get along with TSU with the cost of disrespect for himself or for MC sake

AFter hearing that TSU told him to leave his daughter and go away and that he wont have to get along with him for anybody sake

Winyu said he and TSU could come to respect eachother

TSU say Winyu dont even like Chinese

Winyu say he likes everyone and even chinese. what he dun like is the fact that TSU came to his country and got rich in his country and tell him that he cant marry his daughter. He personally likes TSU but doesnt like his attitude toward his place in the thai society

He still pans to marry MC and will talk abt himself to TSU

Winyu cares abt his work and want to see the conutry progress but not in a rush, he care for peace and he tell his student to have the moral principle of a farang, the diligence of a chinese and the heart of thai

“Heart of Thai“ means the love of peace, contentment with little concern for others and a sense of moderation. the new gen is aggressive but we must see that the old thai values are not lost

TSu say he seeen the agressiveness from those young thai boy running to bars making lewd comments blah blah

Winyu says thats a minor problem

TSU say he hasnt met anyone like Winyu, he is polite but also argumentative

Winyu say the chinese are slowly getting absorb in thai society but TSU say no one is gonna absorb him

Then Winyu ask would he rather see ppl marrying or fighting

TSU say children nowaday wants so many things and during his time as a child he dun rmb having such needs

When children get into trouble now aday its only 2 option

  • their parents meddle too much

  • their parents dun teach them enough

When Winyu left, MC and TSU talked

MC will marry Winyu

she told her dad its better to get along then like in America where they hate other races and resort to shooting

TSU then ask whether she gonna risk marrying Winyu

She reply what marriage is not a risk and take CK and BL wedding as an example

and then day if they not happy they will think again which mean divorce

AB and TSU talk

TSU told AB that MC gonna get marry

He not happy she marrying a thai

AB told him to move on with the world

TSU say if they marry he will give them nth

Well AB say MC lucky she has her auntie cz her auntie

He say there is smth worse than being lonely, its is being lonley and humiliated