Marriage and Family Exam 1

1. Be familiar with all of the Scripture you have memorized up to the midterm. Syllabus 

2. What were the character traits we discussed in class? P9.5 

- heart of compassion 

- kindness 

- humility 

- gentleness 

- patience 

- bearing one another 

- forgiveness 

- love 

3. What were the relationship skills we discussed in class? Ps-5 

- communication skills 

- conflict-resolution skills 

- understanding roles 

- worship 

- time together 

- honoring and serving one another 

4. Be able to explain the relationship skills as they pertain to the character traits. py. 5 + notebook 

5. Be able to identify each level of the iceberg diagram used in class. pg. 5+6 

Problem areas = the tip of the iceberg 

Relationship skills and character traits = the middle of the iceberg 

Heart motivations = the source, or bottom of the iceberg 

6. Understand the basic teachings of the heart. p3. 5+6 

“seat of desire” 

Epcenter of man 

Your heart has “thoughts”, intentions 

- not basically good – Jer. 17:9 

- active, not empty or passive 

- it takes work to understand – Prov. 20:5 

- Its really all about worship 

7. What are the purposes of marriage? P3. 10-11 

 1. Companionship 

 2. Completer 

 3. Covenant 

 4. Children 

 5. Collaboration 

9. What are the results of this comprehensive partnership? pg 14 

 Unity, partnership, sacrifice 

11. What type of relationship is marriage? bottom of py 13 

12. Be familiar with the differences between a contract and a covenant. pg 15 –16 

Contract: 

- made by the exchange of promises 

- limited by the terms of the exchange of property 

-based on profit and self-interest 

- temporary 

Covenant: 

- sworn by a solemn oath 

- involve an exchange of life 

- call for self-giving, loyalty, and sacrificial love 

- permanent, even intergenerational 

13. What are the commitments a couple must make to purity? pg. 15-16 

- Marriage held in honor-Heb.13:4 

-  You shall not commit adultery-Ex. 20:14 

- Wife is to be pure and chaste-1 Peter 3:1-2 

- Keep away from someone else’s mate- Prov. 5 

Purity in Thoughts 

Purity in affections 

Purity in behavior 

14. How do these commitments relate to each other? pg. 15-16 

 What starts in your thoughts will be action

adultery begins at the level of your heart desires-adultery is a manifestation of desire

If you are struggling having purity of behavior, then you have already messed up

15. What makes a marriage protected from adultery? 19. 17 

An adultery-proof relationship is one that is satisfied in their spouse-be intoxicated with your spouse

16. When considering perseverance in marriage, what analogy was given for a beautiful marriage? py. 18 

Why was it given? 

The analogy for a beautiful marriage was a beautiful garden. Gardens takes a lot of work. You must de-weed and cultivate. Same with a marriage

17. Regarding the purity of marriage, what did we say makes a marriage "bullet proof" from

immorality? pg 17 

Contentment. How do you learn contentment? Philippians 3 and take every thought captive

18. What were the verses we used to develop these principles? pg 16-17 

Heb. 13:4

Ex. 20:14

1 Peter 3:1-2

Pro. 5

19. What Biblical passages did we discuss concerning homosexuality? pg 20-21

 Genesis 19 Sodom and Gomorrah

Leviticus 18:22 and Leviticus 20:13 The Law

Romans 1Exchange of worship of the creator to created

1 Corinthians 6 nor effeminate by perversion- if you are known by these things you are not a Christian

James 1:13-15 Your desires come from your heart-when you desire something sinful its a sin

20 What was the passage we used to address the desires of homosexuality, even if those desires were not acted upon? pg. 21

James 1:13-15

21 What were a few counseling strategies we discussed in counseling homosexuality? (be familiar with 2-3) pg. 21-22

1. Putting off the actions

2. Repenting of desires

3. Educating about sexual orientation-can change

4. Rejecting by birth arguments

5. Slave to righteousness or unrighteous

6. Helping convince that desires are sinful

7. Radical amputation (Matt. 5)

8. Aiming for growth not perfection (mediate on Christ, not sin)

9. Growing in masculinity if biological male

10. Growing in femininity if biological female