Interpersonal Attraction
Why we’re attracted to the things we’re attracted to—
Interpersonal Attraction - (attraction between people) the degree of liking one has for another individual. Usually involving a willingness to spend time together and generally a positive evaluation of the other individual.
being around someone
spending time with someone
physical and sexual engagements
Attachment styles:
SELF OTHER
Positive Positive = secure attachment
Negative Positive = anxious attachment
Positive Negative = avoidant attachment
Negative Negative = disorganized attachment
It’s not random who we form attractions to—behavioral science approved
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Propinquity (proximity) Effect - the effect of physical proximity in developing interpersonal attraction.
you are more likely to end up attracted to peple you share spaces with.
school, work, hobbies
Reward Model of Interpersonal Attraction - attraction is more likely with individuals with whom we associate positive reinforcement/feelings.
pear blossoms manwha = choosing the farmer guy over the teacher
bc he’s literally the better choice but wtvwhy everyone thinks na-yeon should choose the brick not the grifter, because the brick evokes more positive feelings
not concrete solid model (obvi)
Personal Attributions - we tend to like individuals with traits that remind us of others whom we also like, and we tend to like individuals with culturally desirable attributes.
familiarity thing
classical conditoning (learning via association).
someone who makes you happy, kind, reliable/dependable, keeps you safe, physcically attractive*
Psychological Need Fulfillment - liking tends to individuals who fulfill our needs, espcially of self-esteem and meaning.
we are more likely to be attracted to people we feel psychologically safe and healthy with
and people who tend to provide us reasons to live a meaningful life
“I feel like I have one more reason to live when I think about you” - Felix to Hyunjin😐
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Physical Attraction
*Physical Attractiveness - perceived sexual and aesthetic appeal generally predicts liking.
the way they dress
the shape of their face
texture of their skin
features
body shape
➡ Associative Attraction - individualsa re rated more attractive when in the presence of other attractive individuals.
➤ if you’re surrounded by good looking people, you become more attractive.
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How This Applies to Online Environments
Proximity Effect - the digital spaces that we occupy as well as the anticipated ongoing communication/interactions.
❤︎ we tend to develop attraction to people we share the same online spaces with.
games
groups (?) like D&D groups, sincerely (wow what a throwback), discord servers
i actually don’t really know
maybe like Lroy and VX; same online space
forums
Hyperpersonal Model of Computer-Mediated Communication -
✦ the roles of each person is exaggerated
✦ everything is editable and curated what we want the other person to see
Selective Self-Presentation - asynchronus online communication allows for editing.
Discretionary Engagement - responding when we are best able to; menaing we get to put our best image forward
this still happens irl; job interviews
but here you can lie about it and get away with it; irl you would have to reap what you sow
Homophily - birds of a feather flock together; people who percieve other as the ‘same level‘ of attractiveness are more likely to form interpersonal relationships (freindships).
the tendency to form strong social connections with people who share one’s defining characteristics, as age, gender, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, personal beliefs, etc..
A high degree of similarity between individuals who form social ties.
A gradual escalation of intimacy is most positively related to a gradual escalation of:
Self-discolure
The same photo is used to construct four different fake Facebook profiles. Use your knowledge of how perceived popularity on social networking sites like Facebook affects the perceived attractiveness of the profile photo in order to choose which of the following profiles is most likely to be perceived as belonging to the most attractive profile owner.
not profile 1 or 3 so idfk
Individuals in the age cohort of _______ year-olds use online dating sites or mobile apps _______ than the total average across the population.
25-34; more
Research suggests that a 20-year-old undergraduate female who is widely perceived as beautiful is likely to _______ than less-attractive women.
be percieved as more socially skilled
A 2012 study of post-breakup Facebook surveillance found that approximately _______ of individuals remained Facebook friends with an ex-partner, and more than _______ said they could still view their ex-partners status updates, photos, and wall posts.
60% 90%
Studies find that people tend to like someone they just met if he or she reminds them of someone they already like. This research provides support for: transferrence
A 1994 study by Walther demonstrated that _______ can be used to explain online interpersonal attraction just as well as it explains interpersonal attraction in face-to-face settings.
the proximity effect
Our first impressions of individuals whom we meet in face-to-face environments are most likely to be determined by their: physical appearance
Among individuals who indicate knowing someone who uses or has used online dating, more than 50% have _______ and an income of _______.
a college degree > 75k a year
Which of the following is most clearly supported by research on social attraction?
Birds of a feather flock together (homophily)
The reward model of liking suggests that we may like someone simply because:
the person happened to be around when we were feeling good.