Truman Madsen - Lecture on Marriage

Love and Knowledge

  • The children of Zion should love in proportion to the heavenly knowledge they have received.

  • Love keeps pace with knowledge; as one increases, so does the other, perfecting together.

  • Parli Peeprat experienced a pure, intense love after gaining knowledge from Joseph Smith, elevating his soul.

Eternal Family Organization

  • Parli Peeprat learned from Joseph Smith about eternal family organization.

  • This includes the eternal union of the sexes in endearing relationships.

  • These relationships are prized by the intellectual, refined, and pure in heart and form the foundation of happiness.

  • The wife can be secured for time and all eternity.

  • Sympathies and affections emanate from divine, eternal love.

  • These affections can be cultivated and increased eternally.

The Vision of Marriage

  • A crucial insight into building a meaningful marriage is maintaining the vision.

  • Without the vision, marriage perishes.

  • The truth about our past, present, and future is emancipating and motivating.

  • This truth surpasses other attempts at solving marital conflict.

The Eternity of Sex

  • Marriage is of God.

  • The primal commandment was to multiply and replenish the earth.

  • The highest ordinance is the sealing of husband and wife.

  • The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints affirms the eternity of sex among the children of God.

  • The distinction between male and female is not limited to mortal life.

  • It was essential in our preexistent state and will continue after death in disembodied and resurrected states.

Premortal Existence

  • The doctrine of preexistence illuminates man's origin.

  • Man as spirit was begotten and born of heavenly parents.

  • They were reared to maturity in the Father's eternal mansions before coming to earth.

  • The Church proclaims man as the direct and lineal offspring of Deity.

  • All are sons and daughters of Deity in the similitude of the universal father and mother.

Glimpses of the Premortal Realm

  • We were all present at the great organization in heaven.

  • We saw the Savior chosen, the plan of salvation made, and we sanctioned it.

  • We all asked for, prepared for, and anticipated the opportunities of mortality.

  • Every man with a calling to minister was ordained to that purpose in the grand council before this world.

  • The organization of spiritual and heavenly beings was agreeable to perfect order and harmony.

  • Their limits and bounds were fixed irrevocably and voluntarily subscribed to in their heavenly estate.

  • These principles should be embraced to expect eternal life.

  • We are lawful heirs according to the flesh and saviors unto our family, Israel, through the priesthood.

Brigham Young's Revelatory Dream

  • Joseph Smith showed Brigham Young the pattern of family organization as it was in the beginning.

  • The priesthood had been taken from the earth and needed to be joined together.

  • This creates a perfect chain from Father Adam to his latest posterity.

  • Keep the spirit of the Lord; it will lead you right.

  • They will find themselves as they were organized by our Father in heaven before they came into the world.

  • Our Father in heaven organized the human family, but now they are disorganized and in great confusion.

  • Nostalgia or celestial homesickness exists as we struggle to find ourselves and a home.

Ties Between Worlds

  • The ties of this world will extend to the next.

  • We had similar ties before this world, some of them at least.

  • Joseph Smith said that if people knew what was behind the veil, they would try to commit suicide to get there.

  • The Lord implanted the fear of death to help accomplish His plans.

  • What is behind the veil is a family relationship with our eternal Father.

  • We could not stand to stay here if we clearly remembered that relationship.

  • We are intended to stay to make an eventual glorious reunion possible.

  • The Church teaches that we lived in a family relationship to our Father and others long before this world.

  • We should honor and magnify those who belong to us in the blood ties of family.

The Law of Adoption

  • Have children sealed to their parents and run this chain through as far as you can get it.

  • It is our duty to honor our father, who begot us in the flesh.

  • The Spirit of God will be with you when you do this.

Judaism and Family Life

  • Judaism has a strong tradition of glorifying family life.

  • In Hebrew, everything in the cosmos is either masculine or feminine.

  • Jewish lore teaches that man is one stock with the Divine and that there are divine sparks in all mankind.

The Sakhina

  • Jewish teaching affirms the reality of the sakhina, initially synonymous with the glory of God.

  • In subsequent centuries, the sekhina has been spoken of as a maternal counterpart of God.

  • In some forms of medieval Judaism, she is exiled from the divine, and her reunion depends on the redemption of all.

Adam and Eve

  • Adam was created with two bodies, one of which was pulled away to create Eve.

  • It is not their final separation from each other that will achieve redemption, but their reunion.

  • What has God been doing since creation? Making marriages.

  • How rare is a good marriage? As rare as the parting of the Red Sea.

  • How important is creation? Every soul is holy ground; every person is an infinity.

  • Why is murder so abhorrent? If you take a life, you destroy a race.

  • If you save a life, you save a race.

Abraham and Sarah

  • Abraham and Sarah are to be honored because Sarah was promised a son in her hopelessness.

  • On the day Isaac was born, every line in Sara's aged face disappeared; she was rejuvenated.

  • Sarah dated her age from the birth of Isaac.

  • Abraham's willingness to sacrifice the only hope he and Sara had elevated that flatland into a sacred mountain.

  • Man in celibacy is in sublime ignorance, not entitled to the dignified name of man.

The High Priest

  • The high priest at the holy of holies on the Day of Atonement could only do so if he had a wife.

  • According to Talmudic law, only if his heart was permeated with the love of wife and children could he offer up family prayer.

The Glory of Women

  • God breathed into Adam the breath of life, but to Eve, God directed His creative power, translated as lives.

  • Have, Eve, means life or lives in Hebrew.

  • The woman is glorified in ways no other tradition matches.

  • It is woman's persuasive power that led man out of paradise, and it is woman's light that will bring him back.

  • A father is incomprehensible without a mother.

  • The Sabbath is a queen, and the mother is the queen of the Sabbath, the bride, the culmination of all aspirations.

  • At Sinai, women received and accepted the decalogue before the men.

  • The Hebrew words for man and woman have within them the word Yeah, a divine name.

  • If a husband marries a bad woman, he becomes bad; if a woman marries a bad man, he becomes good.

  • God pairs in marriages and appoints all destinies.

  • Man is bound to pay the same respect to his wife's father as to his own father.

  • A wife is like an altar, an atonement.

  • All these things point to making the home a sanctuary.

  • The temple and the home are sanctuaries, one in the image of the other.

Jesus and the Family

  • Jesus' teachings, miracles, and parables are rooted in family consciousness.

  • The most frequent title Jesus uses for the eternal is Father, abha, which means daddy.

  • Jesus first announced his role as the anointed one to a prodigal Samaritan woman by a well, symbolizing the heart of Abraham's religion.

  • The water you take from this well will not fully satisfy your thirst, but the water I give will.

  • Go, call thy husband and come hither.

  • There is a tie in Jesus' thinking between the well of living water, the gospel, and eternal family.

  • Both in His mortal ministry and in modern scripture, Jesus speaks of Himself as the bridegroom.

  • He speaks of the Church as a bride adorned for the day when the bridegroom will unveil the heavens.

  • His plea is that we must abide His law, the law of the new and everlasting covenant of marriage.

  • There is a passage that seems to contradict that.

  • Who is my mother? Who is my brother? Who follows me is.

  • You must understand that you are to become his disciple by becoming a member of the eternal family.

  • He who was only begotten now becomes the only begetter of that family, the Church of the Firstborn.

  • This church will enjoy a fulness of His priesthood and a continuation of the power of creation forever.

The Compassion of Jesus

  • All of Jesus' miracles have compassion in common.

  • He manifests the most profound compassion when reality has cut across genuine family relationships.

  • So, for example, a woman is without issue, and he has compassion and heals her.

  • The person is the only son or daughter of the man who is crying for help.

  • The cry that made Jesus weep for Lazarus came from his sisters.

The Glorified Family

  • Salvation points to securing links in the glorified family.

  • Jesus created the earth.

  • In the JST translation of the incident in cana, Jesus' mother comes and says, We are without sufficient wine. And he asks,