The danger of hiding who you are.

Introduction to Nonconformity
   - The speaker identifies as a nonconformist while growing up in a conservative environment in Kansas, USA.
   - Exhibited individuality by trying out unconventional clothing styles and hairstyles.
   - Described themselves as outspoken and social.
   - Showcased evidence of this self-identity during a semester abroad in London sixteen years ago through photographs and postcards.
Shift in Identity
   - During the same year in London, the speaker experienced a profound realization regarding their identity.
   - This realization led to a stark shift in behavior:
     - Became more withdrawn and avoided socializing.
     - Lost interest in clubs and leadership activities.
   - Feels that this change was attributed to growing up rather than a desire for acceptance.
   - Reflected on the disconnect between previous self-perception as independent and the new compulsion to conform.

Psychological Impact of Hiding
   - Hiding becomes a progressive behavior; once established, it is increasingly difficult to openly communicate true feelings or identity.
   - The speaker recalls creating a false narrative when discussing their TED Talk, demonstrating persistent concealment of the truth.
   - Returns to London, feeling it to be a fitting yet frightening place to stop hiding.
Coming Out Moment
   - Declaration of sexual orientation: "I am a lesbian."
   - Emotional struggle around these words stems from a desire to be seen as an individual rather than defined solely by sexual orientation.
   - Discontent with being categorized as "my lesbian friend Morgana" instead of just Morgana.

General Perception
- For individuals from large metropolitan areas, the speaker’s experience may seem trivial.
- Acknowledges fear of not being accepted can paralyze individuals from expressing their true identities.
Deloitte Study 2013 Findings
   - Identity Concealment Statistics:
     - 61% of surveyed employees changed behavior or appearance to fit workplace norms.
     - 83% of gay, lesbian, and bisexual employees confessed to altering their characteristics to appear less gay at work.
   - Even organizations with diversity and inclusion policies witness struggles with self-identity among employees.
   - Conformity is often perceived as critical for long-term career advancement, leading to efforts of self-concealment.

Personal and Community Impact
   - Recognition that silence concerning personal identity can have serious repercussions, including health consequences associated with social stigmas.
   - Life Expectancy Statistics:
     - Life expectancy for gay, lesbian, and bisexual people in anti-gay communities is reduced by twelve years compared to more accepting communities.
   - Social consequences extend beyond personal health, affecting community atmosphere and discrimination levels.
Example from Home State
   - Reflection on a missed opportunity to impact legislation:
     - Kansas House of Representatives voted on a bill potentially allowing discrimination against LGBTQ+ individuals under religious freedom pretenses.
   - Personal connection to the issue through a friend whose father voted in favor of this bill.
   - The internal conflict stems from not being honest about identity and the potential influence speaking out could have had.

Professional Dissonance
   - The speaker works in human resources, a field that typically promotes diversity and inclusion.
   - Recognizes failure to advocate for diversity despite working in a progressive environment.
   - Initial hope of coming out upon joining the company was thwarted by continued silence.
Reflection on Past and Future
   - Found a modified quote in a journal from a previous London trip: "There are more scary things inside than outside."
   - Note addressed to self emphasized the importance of exploring personal identity as well as external environments.
   - Overcoming internal fears and insecurities is framed as key to catalyzing external change.
Choice to Come Out
- The speaker declares a resolution to reveal their hidden self.
- Hopes this will inspire others to embrace their identities, leading to more fulfilling personal and professional lives.