lecture recording on 05 March 2026 at 15.18.12 PM

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Child Development

They probably won't turn out very good for each year and two minute. Attachments. So a secure attachment, that that picture right there is of an actual grown up. So children with secure attachments will be able to calm themselves, be confident in their abilities, form lasting healthy relationships, and overall, well adjusted. So as a grown up, they'll be comfortable with intimacy.

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They can regulate their emotions and feelings. They can trust and have empathy and compassion. They're comfortable being close to people or alone. Some people might have issues being alone. My daughter did it first.

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Now she's very comfortable ever since we got our dogs. I feel like that's a comforting thing for her to always have somebody there or be with her. Now is that smart? I don't know. I feel like eventually she'll be grown grown enough to get out of that anxiety of being alone.

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Good coping and problem solving skills and communicate effectively. That's what a good, secure attachment grown up looks like. Maybe you are you all those things? Do you feel like you have a little issue with certain areas? Maybe your toddler life wasn't the best, and you've grown from that.

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Or maybe you still have some insecurities. Here's the insecure attachment. This is what a child looks like that might have some issues. The causes, inconsistent care, right, regardless of the reason, makes them believe that they're not worthy of protection or care. That's super sad to not be worth.

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Right? Toddlers become vulnerable to trauma. Remember Maslow's hierarchy? Y'all know what Maslow's is. And if you become a teacher or a counselor, you will need to dive into Maslow and Erickson, which we are tapping on today.

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It's the pyramid. It's Maslow, and Erickson is the stair steppers that I'll show you their stages. So we're gonna go in-depth of Maslow just a little bit so you can have an understanding of what his pyramid means. And it's basically bottom needs of the pyramid, the four bottom needs that you be met, or you'll never make it to your full potential is what he believes. Alright?

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Cause the most damage to a person's self esteem, thus his or her mental health is at stake. So when you have insecure attachments, this is what happens. You could cause them to have a mental health disorder. Can be fixed with learning new relationship skills. So what does a kid look like that does doesn't do well with attachment?

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You obviously exaggerated distress. They throw a tantrum and go, like, ballistic. I don't know if you've ever witnessed a toddler tantrum, but it's real. Okay? And then if they have a severe attachment, though, they might throw this for a second, and then they can find a way to calm themselves, whether that's with a teddy bear or somebody talking softly to them or maybe they just need a quiet space.

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But, usually, you can calm yourself. It's when you can't is when we need to start searching into what's going on at home maybe with this toddler. Show anger, fear, and anxiety. They avoid people. So see everybody on the playground, and little Timmy here is off by himself.

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Refuse to engage with others. So even if the teacher tries or a caregiver tries or just, no. I'm not fudging. I'm not moving. I don't wanna talk to you.

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Don't touch me. That sort of thing. So, again, emotional and social, very important milestones to your little toddler. They're very trusting trusting too, little kids up. Here's that fair bit that I was talking about.

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And I gave y'all in here an extra little sheet, kind of breaking it down. I wanted to get it open. Where is it? Alright. This sheet right here.

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So the pyramid you're viewing is Maslow's hierarchy of needs. It's a motivational theory in psychology. And this Abraham Maslow, he created this and wrote a paper all about it, researched it hardcore. 1943, guys. That's how old this stuff is, and it's still being used today.

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So he must have done something right. A theory of human motivation. This model often depicted as a pyramid organizes human needs at five levels, suggesting that people are motivated to meet basic needs before addressing higher level ones. What it's saying is there are two types of needs. There's a deficiency, which is the bottom four, and those consist of these lovely colors right here, red, orange, yellow, green.

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So your physiological needs, which is the basics. I need sleep, food, shelter, clothes, breathing. And then there's safety and security, health, employment, property, family, social ability, friendships, love and belonging, that you have good friendships, intimacy, sense of connection in a family, and then self esteem. So he's saying if you can't master all these four categories, you'll never be able to meet your full potential is what he's saying. If you can't master all of these things, then you'll never reach this right here.

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Alright? If you aren't thinking or needing anything from these areas, then you have the ability to self actualization, which is the top tier, which everybody needs to try to get to in their life. Even some grown ups haven't reached their full potential yet. You may know something, or maybe we're always evolving, trying to reach that full potential. Right?

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So, again, the I'm gonna go straight to the examples because I feel like those are really easy to give up on my spine. Nice. Forty year lines don't work properly anymore. Extremely hungry or tired. Right?

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So all you can think about at that point is what then? If you come to school, no breakfast, and maybe you didn't get dinner either, what yeah. All you can think of is food. You think you're gonna be able to focus on your test and take that math test or take that if your belly is all what you're thinking about? No.

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Nice. So making sure you have enough sleep and healthy food daily is crucial for focusing on your schoolwork. That is that bottom tier of Maslow's loss. It's this bottom tier right here that's not met. So you can't meet your full potential because all you're thinking about right now is food or food.

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The next is safety and security. An example, when a child who feels unsafe at home or worried about a bully at school will struggle to meet friends and learn. So feeling secure in your classroom environment and your home and knowing your basic needs are met helps you feel calm enough to participate. Alright? So, again, if you have a bully, if you that's that safety and security example.

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Or if you're witnessing stuff at home and you're bringing that to school, that's on your mind all the time instead of participating in your school or making friends. Right? Again, your safety and security is not met. Love and belonging, an example is feeling lonely or excluded from a friend group, can make a student sad and uninterested in class activities. So having a supportive family, a close friend circle, or feeling part of a school club meets these needs.

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So that's, again, the love and belonging. If you have all of this done and your self esteem, which is another a student who gets good grades or praised by a teacher for their effort, they feel a boost of confidence and achievement. Right? That's a good self esteem. Their confidence is being built.

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Otherwise, if you have a student that feels constantly criticized, they might stop trying in class because their self esteem is low. Alright? If you can meet all four of those, the example of the growth needs, you have this student that has met all four of their needs. They're doing great. They're fed.

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They're not tired. They have a good home. They have a good friend circle. They are making great grades for them. It may not be all a, but it's good for them.

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And this student right here, she loves art and spends extra time after school practicing her drawing, not for a grade. Alright? It's just because they enjoy it, and they wanna get better at it. That means that student has met her self actualization. She's met her full potential now because she's choosing to take this you know?

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Or here's another example. A kid that's choosing to take challenging classes because you wanna learn more about a subject you're passionate about, pursuing inner potential and meaning means that you are meeting that full potential. Alright? Not because you're doing it for a grade or you have to get the good grades to feel love or praise at home, that self esteem. If all four things are met and you're doing something just because you, like, challenge yourself and you are interested in something, then you're meeting your full potential.

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You should be proud of yourself. The next little bit, let me go back to that's Maslow's. The I don't know why she said example, but partnering parenting with autonomy. So that's gonna be your exit ticket. What is the definition of autonomy?

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It's the first sentence of your exit ticket. Can somebody tell me in small words what you think autonomy is? What? What's autonomy? The ability of a child to be independent.

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Yes. The ability to be independent and do things on your own. That's autonomy. So their dependence versus independence, parents' goal is to instill controls of reactions, emotions, self restraint, and stress, but allowing independence needs to be balanced. Never forget safety first.

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So I always give the example. I'm not gonna send my two, three year old into an HUB bathroom by themselves to use the bathroom, and I'll be waiting out there for him. No. I'm gonna walk my toddler in. I'm going to be in the stall with them, and I watch them cleanly get things set up so they are protected by germs.

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They're protected by kidnappers. They're protected by pedophilers. Who knows what goes on in the bathrooms. Right? So, again, you're giving them the independence to get up on the toilet and set the toilet up or whatever y'all do in the bathrooms, what your your personal preference is.

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And they get up there. They do it all by themselves. They may wipe themselves. They get down. They go wash their hands by themselves.

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But I'm always there. So, again, you do practice some sort of control. Right? You're there, and it's it's because of safety. And she did self safety wrong.

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She was tied really fast, I guess. Okay. Eric said. Yes. His parents did that to him.

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Eric Eric said is the philosopher that we're gonna be studying here for the second stage autonomy versus shame and doubt, And he believes that toddlers fall into the autonomy versus shame and doubt. But he also believes most of the philosophers in child development stop at grade school or adolescence. Eric Erickson believes that we are ever learning even when we're old. Alright? We have to meet these stages.

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So, again, infants are trust versus mistrust. That makes sense. Right? They won't even trust you and the world around them. Autonomy versus shame and doubt, giving them independence, but also building their self confidence, not talking down on them, and they doubt themselves, and then they don't feel confident.

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Initiative versus guilt is a preschooler. Industry versus inferiority is a grade schooler, so all the way to, like, eighth grade. And then teenagers, where you're at right now is identity versus role confusion. That kinda makes sense because your prefrontal vortex here in the front of your brain is not developed fully until you're 25. That is where your identity, like, who am I?

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What am I gonna be? What do I wanna do? What are the roles in my life? What decisions do I wanna make? My choices, my problem solving, that is all still, like, growing for you in there.

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And when you turn 20 to 25, it's pretty much done. The person you are at twenty twenty five is probably who you'll be for the rest of your life unless some major thing happens to you and you change completely. I'm not saying that can't be done either. But I'm saying pretty much your values, your everything by 2025 is kinda set. You're still growing here in this age range identity, finding yourself.

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Intimacy versus isolation is when you're kind of college years in mid twenties to thirties. And then gender, where I'm at, gender activity versus stagnation is middle age, and then integrity versus despair is all the beliefs. Yeah? So, again, all of that is part of his psychosocial development. So that means how we our feelings and emotions, what we go through in each day of his life.

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The thing about Eric Erickson I want you to know is that we're focusing on that second stage, autonomy versus shame and doubt. So this little girl right here is what we're gonna be focusing on. And this stage, this helps you answer the second portion of your exit ticket today. This stage typically occurs during childhood between between the ages of 18 and three years. The central conflict resolves around the child building a sense of personal control and independence.

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Children begin to assert their will and gain control over physical skills such as walking and bodily functions. There's no need leave their toilet training now. Encouraging this self sufficient behavior within state limits helps build a sense of confidence and capability. Again, so if you're building on their emotion and social state right here. But the shame and doubt, if children are overly criticized, controlled, not given the opportunity to act independently, they may develop feelings of shame and doubt about their abilities.

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This can lead to low self esteem and dependency later in life. So if some of you doubt yourself a lot, maybe this is something in your toddler stage that you didn't get enough of. Right? Maybe you didn't get enough reassurance or enough affirmations saying or praise how well you did at something. Self on certain things.

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Alright? It doesn't make it wrong or right. It just means, you know, maybe you're making yourself aware of how you were raised versus what you are now. So, again, important tasks. Specific examples mentioned in the presentation right here, the little girl, confirmed by research, including cranking out clothes, chewing toys, developing food press preferences, and mastering cane training.

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So she's actually navigating this stage results in virtue of will, which is the belief in one's ability. So, again, I wanna dress as a hot dog today, mommy. Okay. Go for it. Go dress as a hot dog.

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Right? I think you look awesome. Don't worry about what everybody else is gonna say. Right? Like, you also gotta set them up that people aren't always super nice and fun like you are.

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So, again, developing a food preference of her own. I love hot dogs, but maybe the caregiver right there, he looks kinda squeamish eating a hot dog. He's like, my favorite, but happy that you like you found something you like. Right? You reinforce that you're happy they're choosing their own food.

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Choosing which toy she likes by yourself is a great economy, and you don't give her chance out to choosing Maybe it looks more like a boy toy versus a girl toy. You know, the gender whole thing. Maybe you just say, hey. I'm so glad you were playing sweetly with those toys or something like that. It doesn't matter if it's boy girl toy.

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Mastering the toilet training, again, always I don't know if y'all had it, but we always had a potty dance or potty song. Every time they went potty, you did a little dance. You did a little jig. You got a little sticker tire. I don't know if y'all remember doing any of that growing up or helping your brother younger brother and sister go through something like this.

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But, again, positive, making the toilet positive, not negative. Right? You don't have to wear diapers anymore. Probably shaving would be, though I remember saying it a couple times. Oh, so you're a little lady still.

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You know? I probably shouldn't have done that. But it made her aware where I said, look. I bought you Kenseth undies. You know?

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And she you get excited because you got a special pair of undies. So how can we support? Again, here's some more ideas for your your lesson plan that you're about to come up with. Maybe you play with mirrors. It's to help the toddler.

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No face recognition, one. Build a self confidence by saying, look how pretty you are. Your eyes are so green, knowing their colors, knowing where their eyes are, saying their name in the mirror. That's you, Susie, you know, or whatever. That's playing with mirrors is a good thing.

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Dressing up is another fun thing for toddlers. They love to wear adults', like, clothes and shoes and accessories, and helping point to an object would be a really good idea and saying what it's used for. Again, getting that language, that confidence because they know something now. Pretend play. They love to pretend to have tea parties, that you love the food even though it's fake food.

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Let's have a party, that sort of thing. A book about me. So you take pictures of your toddlers. We did this for our kids that you slide them into a squishy, like, waterproof little photo album that they can hold, and they can turn the pages and see themselves in the experience. That's a really great great self awareness of loved ones and themselves and their dog maybe.

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Photo gallery. You know those things that toddlers that we all have, a skylight or something that shows pictures on a big on a screen. Just make sure it's eye level for them so they can see them and experience see them inside and experience, like swimming or, you know, sitting on Santa's lap, that sort of thing. And kids love to see how much they've grown. My daughter loves to see that she's drawn her hand on our wall.

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At three, she did it, and then she did it at six and nine, and then she'll do it twelve. And each time, you can see her little hand grow, grow, grow. She loves that that little grow chart. And then I don't know if some of y'all have the ruler at your house with all your measurements. Your brothers and sisters, you can compare and be like, well, I'm bigger than you.

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You're that eight, so I'm not bigger. So that's always fun to have a growth chart for your kiddos. The last thing, I believe, is the conclusion, and then we can move on to that lesson planning. And you figure out what group I would really like to have your group writing. Self awareness is all of this.

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So, basically, self identity equals self esteem equals self control. That all equals work. So if you're building self identity, self esteem, and self control, you should have work. You know that you're worthy, that you're confident in your own abilities. This little book, The Reflection in Me, in my notes, I summarized that book for you.

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She put it on there because it's a great book about how you look in the mirror. You should think more about not what you look like on the outside, but the story reminds the reader of their kindness, their choices, their feelings are part of who you truly are. Right? So, again, it's not all about what you look like on the outside. We all know what's saying.

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Don't judge a book by its cover. It encourages children to believe in themselves and appreciate what makes them unique. The book's message is what matters most is the good qualities we show through our actions and how we treat others is more important than what's on the outside of your looks. And y'all heard that a thousand times. Yes?

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Sure. Of your lifespan. Don't make it. That's what's on the inside. Your heart.

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So much prettier than what's on the outside. It's like have y'all seen Shallow Pal? Yes. Yes. It is so funny.

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So he's very he's not a very good looking good guy. Right, He's a it's Jack Black. So he's not a very, like, oh, he's hot kinda guy, but he goes for only model type women, and they shut him down all the time. And he gets his hypnotized he gets hypnotized, and all the, like, random people, like, overweight, maybe psoriasis of the face and scalp, which is flaky skin. Mhmm.

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Maybe a bunch of pimples. He sees them as supermodels. So everybody else sees him with these people that aren't really his type, usually. But then you start seeing them. It's how you start seeing on the inside is how you're reflected on the outside with the hypnotism that happens.

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And the really beautiful women end up looking like cigarettes smoking and married. Yeah. Like so it's it's a good you should be all should watch this. It's a funny one. Toddler self awareness.

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Conclusion involves early feelings of self esteem. Toddlers are in Erickson's second stage known as autonomy versus shame and doubt. Developing secure attachments. This one's crucial right here. You gotta have a secure attachment.

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It's critical for social emotional outcomes around your life. You establish that first. Remember before what age? What's the age? 18.

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This is 18 right here. Adults can help toddlers develop self awareness and parents who use the right types of support in aiding their toddler's feelings of autonomy. Parents and other caregivers must die co regulate with other positive and negative emotions. And then remember, stress in toddler years, even though it's short lived because of their attention span, they kind of forget things and then move forward. But if it's a reoccurring event, such as insecure attachments or trauma in toddlers, including depressed mothers, it's a serious, and it requires professional treatment.

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Alright? So, again, it means it's a reoccurring thing at home, then you are going to probably send your toddler into a mental health disorder of some sort. Right? If they're living in a stress, insecure environment. K?

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And more people are living in those environments than you can think or know. And I don't know why she put that. This was an I've had only two people not write at least two sentences, which is crazy because I give you two prompts to answer so you are set up for two sentences already. The first sentence is your definition. The second sentence can have two examples in it, or you can do a second sentence example and a third sentence for your second example of how a caregiver can develop a toddler's autonomy.

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Again, we went through so many examples of how to support lesson plan under Google Classroom. She said It's a toddler lesson plan. The this document has working hyperlinks. So I've used that instead of what's actually in Google Classroom. I tried to clean the explanation up in Google Classroom, but I know I would still have questions.

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So I'm gonna guess you didn't know was that. No. You're selling. I'm not selling. She's you know, you're still lecturing.

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Right? She's done.