Comprehensive Notes on Understanding and Managing Jealousy

Feeling Jealous: A Study Guide

Introduction to Jealousy

• Jaco lives with Trey, who sometimes experiences feelings of jealousy.
• Jealousy arises when Trey desires the attention someone else receives or wishes for something someone else possesses. Example: "I want a new bike, too."
• It also occurs when Trey desires a skill or talent someone else has or wants to participate in an activity someone else gets to enjoy. Example: "I wish I could hit like that.", "I want to stay up and watch the movie too."

Defining Jealousy

• To feel jealous means to feel envious of someone else.
• It is the desire to do what others do or to have what others have.

Negative Reactions to Jealousy

• Jealousy can lead to saying or doing things that are inappropriate or harmful. Example: "This is a dumb bike."
• It's important to avoid making mean comments when feeling jealous. Example: "Brian is a brat."
• Avoid engaging in mean actions when feeling jealous.
• Expressing or acting out jealousy negatively doesn't eliminate the feeling and can cause emotional harm to others. Example: "I didn't mean to make him cry."

Strategies for Overcoming Jealousy

• To alleviate feelings of jealousy, consider these strategies:
  • Communicate your feelings by talking to someone. Explain the reason for your jealousy. Example: "Brian gets all the attention sometimes. Babies need extra care."
  • If jealous of the attention someone receives, request quality time with another person. If they're unavailable immediately, schedule a future time to spend together and practice patience in the meantime. Example: "Can we read stories together?" "We can in a little while."
  • When feeling jealous of someone's possessions, focus on appreciating the things you already have. Remember that no one possesses everything they desire. Example: "I love my new ball and net."
  • When feeling jealous of another person's talents or abilities, acknowledge and remember your own unique talents and strengths. Example: "I'm a great catcher."
  • When feeling jealous of somebody else's fun activities, reflect on the enjoyable things you get to do in your life. Example: "I love the tub."

Conclusion

• It's important to remember that experiencing jealousy is a common emotion.
• Feeling jealous is acceptable, but it is crucial to manage the feeling in a constructive way that will lead you to feel better.